Just in case you didn’t know, the Nicest Person Ever is my friend and roomate. I’ll call him Sam. The Meanest Person Ever is an Ex-friend I’ll call Lisa.
Lisa and I were good friends. She listened to me cry for days on end over a man named Chuck. I was IN LOVE with Chuck. After almost a year of being treated like his whore, I left him. Lisa consoled me for two weeks then dropped of the face of the earth for a coupla days. THEN my mom got a phone call.
The. Bitch. Was. Dating. Chuck. She was too scared to tell me so she called my mom so SHE could tell me.
This ended our friendship until she came to my door apologizing. I took her back because I knew what it was like to try to put your life together after Chuck. (They had broken up.) We had a few fights after this, nothing major.
Until I went to Las Vegas with her. She yelled at me in a casino because I hadn’t brought enough money from the hotel room to pay for her dinner. She proceded to tell me that my boyfriend didn’t love me, Chuck had never had any respect for me, and that I didn’t deserve respect because I was such a bitch. She even fucking told me that my MOM hated me.
I flew back home that day and refused to speak with her. She had taken and spent the extra money I had left in the room.
Now she is in the other room as I write this, fucking the Nicest Person Ever. I know this because the walls are so thin
Goddamit. How am I supposed to keep his friendship? Lisa is a horrible, terrible, manipulaive person and I have to be civil to her now. Fuck!! Fuck!! Fuck!! Fuck!! It’s not like he doesn’t know how she is, either. He has been my friend for a long time and witnessed most of the above. He Really Likes Her!!! She’s Changed!!! She’s Not Like That Anymore!!! Oh, did I forget to mention that the Vegas episode happened in August?? That is a tremendous change for just a few months! Amazing!!!
So what the fuck am I supposed to do now?? Thanks. Formerly The Nicest Person Ever.
Gotta agree with SnoopyFan - Sam’s getting his end away and he’s not thinking logically. It’ll all end in tears no doubt - be there for him but dump her royally. Think of it as the end of your ever having anything to do with her - but Sam sounds like a keeper.
I don’t give her the time of day anymore. I had sucessfully avoided contact with her for at least five months. The The Nicest Person Ever asked me if he could bring her over. That’s when I found out they were bumpin’ uglies.
There are two complications to this story I didn’t add to the OP in the intrest of space and not confusing the ever living fuck out of you.
First, she may or may not have an STD. Genital Warts to be exact.
She told me she did. Then she told me she didn’t. Then she told me was misdiagnosed. Then she had it again. Then she…I’VE GONE BLIND!!!
Sam used to be “interested” in me. He told me over the summer but I was so used to thinking of him “Sam, the play cousin”. (A play cousin is someone you have become so close to that they have almost become a part of your family.) There was no real romantic chemistry between us. A few months later, he intoduced me to his friend Marc. I liked Marc very much. So I told Sam and asked him if it was ok. We talked about it and he told me I would always be his friend no matter what and to go for it. He acted happy for us. I moved in with Marc and Sam recently.
I’m thinking that maybe this might be some o weird passive-agressive thing.
I don’t give her the time of day anymore. I had sucessfully avoided contact with her for at least five months. The The Nicest Person Ever asked me if he could bring her over. That’s when I found out they were bumpin’ uglies.
There are two complications to this story I didn’t add to the OP in the intrest of space and not confusing the ever living fuck out of you.
First, she may or may not have an STD. Genital Warts to be exact.
She told me she did. Then she told me she didn’t. Then she told me was misdiagnosed. Then she had it again. Then she…I’VE GONE BLIND!!!
Sam used to be “interested” in me. He told me over the summer but I was so used to thinking of “Sam, the play cousin”. (A play cousin is someone you have become so close to that they have almost become a part of your family.) There was no real romantic chemistry between us. A few months later, he intoduced me to his friend Marc. I liked Marc very much. So I told Sam and asked him if it was ok. We talked about it and he told me I would always be his friend no matter what and to go for it. He acted happy for us. I moved in with Marc and Sam recently.
I’m thinking that maybe this might be some weird passive-agressive thing.
My guess is that if she doesn’t be nice to Lisa, that might light some kind of fire under Sam that makes him angry with torie, not wake up and smell the coffee…and that she may lose his friendship over it. Is his friendship important enough to keep quiet?
By any chance, does “Lisa” live in Sumter? My best friend broke up with someone who happens to have a serious personal MO and I’m not sure if I should tell him to go get his ass checked for VD. If you don’t want to post the answer to the board, pass it to hardcoreairman@rescueteam.com
If its who I think it is, I’ll pass along names and such.
This type of thing bugs me because I’m married and those days are gone. He gets to treat you “like a whore” for a year, then bang your best friend. Chuck, you’re my goddamn hero man!
torie It’s not worth the stress, and pain. If he’s truly your friend, then he’ll stay your friend even if you don’t have anything to do with Lisa ever again. Keeping Lisa in your life is not worth it, trust me. It’s eating away at you, and it’s not healthy.
It will take a lot of self discipline to refuse to let her crap on you, or use you again, but you can do it. Make a stand, you’ll feel MUCH better after you do. I do. My decision. I feel so much better without that evil person in my life. Good luck, hope things work out for you.
Am I the only person here who thinks someone who is really that nice wouldn’t be screwing someone who treated their friend like shit? I think you may have confused Sam with the nicest person in the world - he doesn’t sound like he makes the cut to me. As for Lisa - she’s a complete write-off.
(You also might want to mention to Sam/Lisa that genital warts are a chronic condition - they can be removed, but they can come back any time in your life once you’ve got the human papilloma virus. Sam does not want to get this virus.)