The other day my fiancee and I drove four hours to pick up his daughters. You see it had been his oldests birthday. It was not a a day he normally took his visitation, but he has alot of days to “make up” from other blocked visitations. His ex said no problem.
She said this three days before.
She said this two days before.
The day before he talked to his daughters and told them he was coming. They got all excited.
The day of we drive 4 hours. We get there and he calls her(this is in their divorce papers, that he calls before he shows up at the door) All of the sudden his ex decides that he didn’t give her enough notice and the girls can’t come. So basically we drove 4 hours for nothing. But that isn’t the bad part.
The next day his daughters call crying because Daddy didn’t show up. He told them that he had showed up but their mother said they couldn’t come. In the background all you can hear is their mother yelling, Your dad is a liar, I told him to come get you, He just doesn’t love you.
But for me the kicker is the next part of the conversation. He asked his daughter what she did for her birthday. He thought maybe they might have had a double party because his ex has another child that has a birthday the day before his daughters.
She said “nothing”. And by nothing I mean No cake, No presents, no nothing. So he asked to speak to her mother.
His ex told him(loud enough for the kids to hear) That he didn’t send his child support so she couldn’t give her a birthday party. But her other daughter got one the day before. Had a huge bash. His ex told him that she didn’t get the money so she couldn’t do anything and it was all his fault as and He was a bad father.
He pointed out that the child support is taken directly from his check and sent by the state disbursement center. And She said “you know that, and I know that, but the kids don’t” So he asked her where the child support money went. She said that she went out, paid for the other childs birthday, and bought her boyfriend a ps2 game.
So there is no confusion let me put this in a few points.
A. We went to pick them up and she said nope nevermind
B. She proceeded to tell the kids he didn’t show
C.She deliberatley did not have a birthday party for one of the kids, to try and make him look bad.
I have never met anyone like this woman in my whole life. Now I know there are going to be some other poster that comes in here and says “well you don’t know the other side of the story”. This seems pretty cut and dry to me. We can’t even get into the lawyers office til january, but this mess has to stop. Its not fair to the kids, its not fair to the dad. And If she didn’t have so many other kids I would says someone should slap her around, but she still has them to take care of too.
I really hate people who use their kids as pawns.