I plan to try to apologize to her tomorrow. I insulted her, but as stupid as it sounds, that’s not what I was trying to do at all.
I feel like shit, how can I make this better?
Just don’t write your apology, you just might make things worse.*
- Check your title.
Are you absolutely certain she took it as an insult? Maybe she took it in the way you intended and you’re worrying over nothing.
Sorry. Without more info, that’s all I have.
I want to apologize. In retrospect what I said with the best of intentions probably came out wrong.
many bosses are A types. you want to validate them from the start so they don’t turn off. So, start with the apology THEN explain what you mewant or how it came out wrone or might be misconstrued if looking at it from a different way than you intended.
Yes, I got the title wrong. It should read boss.
Well, she told me to trust her and I told her I didn’t know her well enough to trust her. This wasn’t an angry exchange, in fact I almost whispered it. I like her, but she’s only been working at my company for a few months.
I honestly did not mean for it to be an insult. I sort of slipped out.
Ah. I thought it was something more like:
Boss: ‘Please trust me.’
dragongirl: 'Ah, your buns smell like lox, honey. I can smell ‘em from here!’
Boos: Want some rye? 'Course ya do. (Boos hands you a glass)
Boos: Here’s tuh us. Who’s lahk us? Damn fyew! And they’re aaall dayd.
[/RTZ]
Hmm, that’s a tough one. It’s more a statement of fact than an insult, but a statement of a fact that you probably shouldn’t have stated. 
I would have a tough time apologizing for that, because it’s hard to apologize for the truth, but like you say, it slipped out. Maybe you could say something like, “Sorry if I insulted you yesterday; I can be a little tactless at times.”
There are differing degrees of trust, IMO. Suppose some guy was walking out of the john and said to me, “You don’t want to go in there. It’s a mess. Trust me.” That’s a use of the word “trust” in a pretty colloquial way. Do I really trust this guy, insofar as I’d trust my girlfriend, parents, or closest friend with something? No. I would probably take the guy at his word, though, because the cost to me of his being wrong is pretty low (I’m not easily grossed out). But I wouldn’t say, “Hey, would you hold my wallet for a sec?”
I’m still not exactly sure of the circumstances, but it sounds like your boss might have meant one, lesser “type” of trust and you interpreted it as “real” trust. Or maybe she really does need a deep level of trust from you. Again, I can’t tell with what you’ve provided.
It’s late. I don’t know if this makes much sense. But I wish you the best (trust me).
Tough one, if this is a cut-throat business type place, you might be able to get away with (an earn her respect) by telling her you don’t trust anyone but yourself. Assuming it’s not, maybe something along the lines of (without knowing the context) “Just so you know, it’s not that I don’t trust you, I mean I have no reason not to trust you, it’s just that, ya know, we’ve only been working together for a few months and I want to make sure this gets done.” Adjusted, of course, to fit your needs. I wouldn’t make this a formal apology, maybe just mention it in passing at some point. Hopefully she’ll understand.
I fixed the title so it says “boss” instead of ‘more than one Radley.’
Oh, it was that thread. I thought the OP had multiple boyfriends.
I laughed far to much at that.
So how did things go at work today?
Any update?