NoJustice, thanks for proving my point. I’ll take that as a yes. And if I may say so, I suggest playing your pseudo-intellectual mind games only on 22-year old girls, as they are the only ones naive enough to fall for them.
Hah!!
Naïveté knows no age or gender.
Thanks for proving my point.
And I know you all doubted me. 
How many threads are there on this board where an accusation so ridiculously absurd and easily discredited could stand for more than ten hours, and forty posts without anyone calling BS?
You really think I joined this board 2 months to the day before she did in anticipation that she would come here to complain about me? You are out of your mind. I shouldn’t even have to deny it. It’s obvious to anyone with two brain cells to rub together. You have no justification for your paranoia except that you cannot believe anyone would disagree on this topic. And the fact that nobody has called you, Diogenes or or WhyNot out on this, is clear evidence that the lot of you are completely divorced from reality.
To be fair, you could have access to a time machine. And as for that divorce from reality? It was mutual.
Right. If everybody disagrees with your opinion {and this on a board where if I argued for my right to have public sex with dead babies somebody would support it, if only out of sheer cussedness} then they must all be delusional and you must be the only one who is right. I saw a client today who holds similar views: he’s in a mental hospital.
I checked your join date before I even asked if you were the boyfriend. I thought that made it slightly less likely, but it’s not necessary to believe that you registered in order to defend yourself. There’s no reason you couldn’t have incidentally already been a member. It’s not like couples never cruise the same internet sites or join the same boards.
It’s also not implausible that someone could surreptiously register on a board he knows an SO posts on just to monitor what she says and – if necessary – pose as a disinterested observer. I’m not saying any of that’s going on in this case, but it wasn’t (and still isn’t) a ridiculous notion that you might be the BF, especially since you’re so emotionally invested in defending him.
By the way – the Holocaust was bad. Agree or disagree. If 100 people agree that it was bad, does that mean they’re not thinking critically?
Hey, if the baby’s already dead, what’s it hurting?
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True, but on the other hand I do think that it would be a good idea to point him towards some resources so he can improve himself.
It does sound like the OP’s boyfriend is kinda emotionally stunted. He’s an artist yes. (which gives him some points. At least he’s not one of those Dave Matthews Abrocrombrie Yah Dude types…but it does sound like the dumbass frat boy side of him is stuck at about 10th grade. ) I will bet you dollars to donuts that he spends a lot of time whining that he doesn’t have any real emotional connections to anyone.
He doesn’t sound like a horribly bad dude…He’s not physically abusive or “you suck” abusive.
However he could benifit from therapy. If he doesn’t get therapy he’ll spend his life sitting around, whining about how he has no emotional connections to anyone. He could also suck a lot of other women in. If he got therapy then that might prevent a TON of emotional damage.
Huh? When did I say I thought you were the boyfriend? I accept your word that you’re not, because you’ve given me no reason to doubt your word, just like I accept the OP’s word that her boyfriend has made promises he hasn’t kept.
I *agreed *with you.
Although **Diogenes **is completely right, of course. I’m pretty sure my husband has a registered username here that he’s never used, and if I started bitching about him, he might decide to post and defend himself or argue with me through the safety of anonymity.
Actually, No.J. has not given his word he’s not the boyfriend. He has just clumsily avoided to answer the question if he is. Which is kind of cute, in a way, as it shows he does not want to lie, and trusts he can “cleverly” talk his way out of his dilemma.
actually, i’m just going to step in here and end this speculation of NoJustice being said boyfriend. he’s not. my boyfriend was sitting 5 feet across from me reading in certain times that NoJ has posted.
it would’ve been a pretty nasty way to find out that your girlfriend hates and resents you, though, i would think. i’m afraid in my case, i’d have to tell him in person, not on a message board.
Ah well, in that case, I’ve been trolled. Ah well. A first time for everything.
Fixed that typo for you. 
I remain curious: if you found 99 people who agreed with you, would your opinion automatically become irrational?
Insults to other postesr are not allowed in this forum. Everybody here is advised to drop this, including the theory about NoJustice being phoenixundone’s boyfriend.
and i just learned what ‘trolled’ even means on message boards. i’m a newb to message boarding and i’m learning exponentially. ANY-WAY.
a thousand hugs of gratitude to the hundreds of people who have responded to this post. the power is truly in the numbers as i’ve realized. it’s one thing to say one thing to yourself, another when it’s backed by many people who support you, even if it’s strangers – actually, especially if it’s strangers from all over. i feel like i’m not crazy for once.
i’ve decided that i will once and for all split with my boyfriend, but wanted to hear the opinion of others to see if this plan is sound, go here goes:
my lease for my place is up in july, so i will stay here until then and once the lease is over i’m moving far away. i am thinking of using these remaining months to detach from him emotionally. i’ve actually used this thread as a daily reminder of the fact that he is no good for me.
what i am NOT sure about is whether or not i should break up with him immediately, and then use the remainder of my time to get over it (though it might be difficult since he’s so close by), or if i should break up with him when i move so i sort of get the companionship that i can get from him and then leave.
i can see the pros and cons of either, i’m curious to hear the general vote.
Start a new thread for a new question.
I’d say, dump him now so you can clean all reminders of him out of your life when you move.
This isn’t something you can really put up to a vote, ya know? Personally I don’t see any point in dragging things out, but you have to do what makes sense to you. If you felt you were in danger from him (and you’ve never hinted you were, I’m not saying you are) then it would make sense to wait. If you feel he could talk you into staying, changing your mind, whatever, then it would make sense to wait as well. Failing that, though, I would just grit my teeth and get it over with.
Glad to hear it.
Just get out. This is not a good thing for you and you shouldn’t do it any more. Besides, sticking around for “companionship” for another two months sounds manipulative.
Break up with him immediately.
You do not need his fake “companionship.”
You do not want to give him a chance to convince you to stay local. He will find out. He will notice that you are hiding something. He will get it out of you. He will manipulate you into believing that things will change if you stay.
I think you’re considering putting off the break-up until July because you’re still thinking that you want to give it “one more chance.” Stop it.
Break up with him now. And I mean right now. Today. No good will come of waiting. Only harm will come of putting it off.
What leads you to say he’s not “you suck” abusive? It sounds like that’s exactly what he is.
phoenixundone, I think you’re making the right decision. What I hear in the follow-up question is, “I’m going to quit. Should I do it now, or someday?” I know July is a really specific date not too far away, but what is the benefit of putting it off other than pure procrastination?