You’ve done nothing but hurt my mom for the last year. You are an alcoholic, and you know it. Why did you tempt fate with “one last bender” when you know that alcohol fucks you up? You drove drunk and got caught for the second or third time in the past ten years! Because of you and your drinking, my mother now has to chauffer you everywhere. She has no more time to herself! She can’t even go home after work because she has to wait for your idiotic, inconsiderate, dumb ass. If I were her, I’d tell you tough shit, but I’m not. She’s chosen to take care of you, her stupid little brother, and drive you anywhere you need to go for possibly the rest of your lives. This can’t go on. Do you realize how much you’re hurting her? Have you offered any suggestions? Do you have to have a job that’s 25 miles away? My mother told me tonight that you might NEVER GET YOUR LICENSE BACK. That makes me ill with anger at you. Say what you will about my difficulty leaving the nest, but at least I moved out, at least I can legally drive, and AT LEAST I OWN UP TO MY PROBLEMS. I also don’t endanger other lives with my stupidity.
FUCK YOU. I normally don’t think people who drink and drive should be allowed on the road again, but for you I’ll make an exception. Give my mother her life back.
any kids under 18 living in the home? That’s the easy way. Otherwise, just gonna have to move on. Shit reality, but you have to get on with making a better life. Good luck, I’m holding on to hope for you
My mother lives out in the country, and my uncles lives just a few miles away FURTHER in the country. There aren’t any taxi services, car services or busses in the area. It sucks. I guess my mother feels wrong about turning her back on her brother. She’s a very guilty person.
Personally, I think that my uncle fucked up his life, and deserves everything that comes with it. Unfortunately, my mother doesn’t agree.
When he was first arrested, he was under house arrest and had to be home at a certain time so he could blow in a breathalizer. Very strange. My mother had to make sure to haul ass every day so he wouldn’t miss his curfew. Now that he’s off house arrest, there’s no more “beat the clock” home every day, but she still has to deal with driving him everywhere. Also, to make things “easier” for her, he’s driving himself to her house every morning so she doesn’t have to drive out of her way to pick him up. If he gets caught driving without a license, he’ll lose all possibility of ever having a license again. My mother has told him this, but he doesn’t take the hint and let her pick him up.
Last night, my mother called me in tears from Walmart where she was supposed to meet my uncle after work (he works close by). She waited TWO HOURS for him before he finally appeared. Tonight, she’s missing my daughter’s Christmas program because of my uncle. I’ve never felt so much resentment.
I hate to say it, but I think your mother is acting like an enabler. As long as she takes responsibility for your uncle, he will never have to be responsible for himself. She can’t be used like this without her permission.
Don’t feel bad about saying that, maggiethecat, I agree with you 100%. It’s just that I can’t FORCE my mother to cut him loose. All I can do is tell her what I think, and hope she makes good choices. He’s not a total leech, or a jerk or anything, and I think that makes it harder for her. He’s truly sorry for what he’s done, but I also don’t think he’ll be changing any time soon.
