No.
It means we can just be cool and I didn’t ruin everything. I’m not saying it’s typical, but I am saying I’m happy this turned out this way.
I am pretty adept at detecting sarcasm in the written word.
Well, it isn’t that simple, there’s quite a range of what people have said. I think you were taking some chances, were conflicted, were a bit deceitful if I remember right, and clearly needed to work on some things. And your margin for error got unacceptably thin, and for all I know if external events had worked a bit differently you would have really screwed up. However, I don’t see that you actually did anything all that wrong – I don’t think you cheated, or hurt anybody very badly. It sounds like everything can turn out just fine, and this is more because you were questioning your actions than any other single reason. I would have said no stoning, but maybe we would have stood you in front of a wolf and let him growl at you (which should be pretty damn scary).
Is there any way of letting **April **know that her account here has been hijacked by a couple of 15 year old girls?
Yeah, that’s exactly what I said. Actually, we all get up on the altar just before the Eucharist, fling our Sunday best into the sacristy, and engage in extraordinarily lewd sex with each other’s spouses.
You are incapable of not being an asshole, aren’t you?
Like tots funnay
:rolleyes:
“Adept”, how apt!
So basically you’re still letting other people’s reactions dictate what’s right and wrong for you.
Maybe my advice was too friendly and understanding to be clear. I’ll fix it: Ruin everything between you and him. No good can come of this relationship. End everything NOW–no texts, no emails, no nothing. Do not keep him around as your Plan B for when your marriage falls apart because that will make it easier for you to not make the effort to keep your marriage together. End it cold, now. Delete his number and block his texts, with no explanation. He should be dead to you. It will hurt both of you a little. If it hurts a lot, it’s because you were in deeper than you thought, though probably not as deep as a lot of us think.
As I said before, do not tell your husband all the details; it will needlessly hurt his feelings and he might add details of his own that may not be true. If you need a shoulder to cry on that knows what’s going on but is separated from the situation, maybe PM one of us in this thread. But assume that Jerry and Ed read all the PMs and save the juicy ones. I’d volunteer my shoulder because I’ve been through a lot of this, but I’ve been through a lot of this and I know it would be a very bad idea. Plus I’d only pretend to listen.
No
He isn’t my plan B, I don’t have a plan B. I don’t need one
Well, up thread you said texting him went against your moral code and you were vomitting over how bad you feel, so you were going to stop texting for a whole week. But when hubby and buddy said ‘all is well’, everything became great now?
So, are you planning to keep in contact with Guy Friend?
You didn’t address what I said. You seem to have stopped at that point and stuck your fingers in your ears. This is why so many of us say you sound like a teenager.
Yes, I am still going to treat Guy Friend like a friend and not ignore him.
Sorry you feel I’m ignoring you DZ, I’m not. I just don’t agree severing contact is necessary. Sorry
That new Pope is just letting you liberals run wild, isn’t he?
The tree is known by it’s fruit. Your tree, clearly, gives bitter, bitter fruit.
You’re quite the evangelizer. Carry on.
shrug Preachers gonna preach. I’ve been doing my own sort of preaching in this thread.
April, what do you consider cheating? What’s does your husband consider cheating?
Really stupid decision. It just is. But I’m sure that YOU can succeed in what almost everyone here has said is asking for trouble.
But you aren’t going to just be cool. The next time you aren’t feeling enough attention from adoring welcome mat hubby you are going to start flirting again. I am sure you’ll deny it but there’s no doubt in my mind.