Thank you.
I’m going to re-read this several times. It was well thought out and extremely inciteful
If you can’t see how BAD an idea this is I just don’t know what to tell you. And I doubt many here would disagree that opinion.
why? I’m not playing stupid, I just don’t see why. We are going to be with ither people and I’d be staying with his sister and parents.
By December he’ll likely be dating someone anyway, so no pressure. I’ve been asking for a vacation on my own for two years and my husband agrees I need one.
He went to a conference two years go for a week in Toronto right after my youngest was born, because he had booked the whole thing before we found out we were pregnant and I said he should go and not lose the fees he had already paid. He had to leave me with a newborn and two 5 year olds by myself, and he wants to give me a break this year.
I doubt it was ever going to remain a platonic friendship if the flirting had an effect. Takes two to tango, etc.
Still curious if April’s husband has read all of her communications with Other Guy. Did I miss her response?
But we are cooling it, and he isn’t going to stay single for long. The only reason he and his last girlfriend broke up was she moved outta state for college and she said she couldn’t do the long distance thing. He even tried to have her come visit for Labor Day, but it didn’t work out. I have no doubt, even if they don’t hook back up some other girl will make a move
I didn’t share the texts but I did tell him what happened. The flirting, the sexy talk, the cease and desist agreement. We discussed it!
So, no.
I suspect you really don’t want honest advice, only validation, because basically anytime anyone says you’re doing something inappropriate, you either get defensive or act confused. But I’ll still say it: Having the desire to go to visit a man that you have flirted with in the *very *recent past-- a man who is not your husband, and a man you have struggled with your feelings about to the point of starting a thread here-- and visit without your husband around, is INAPPROPRIATE. Saying it’s all ok because Guy Friend “will likely be dating someone anyway” by that time, or because you’ll be “staying with his sister and parents,” is simply foolishness.
Keep on this path, it’ll most likely end badly for your marriage. The only reason I can see you want this Guy Friend around is to scratch some itch you have. JMO.
Alrighty then.
I feel pretty positive about my decision and being open with everyone involved.
And I’m not getting defensive, just being honest. I was worried because I thought my husband would react the same way some of you assumed a husband would. However, he didn’t. I was able to process the situation by posting here, and I’m extremely grateful for all input no matter what was said.
Thanks for all the input, really, no B.S. This thread was extremely helpful
Prediction: By New Years, OP will have already slept with Guy Friend or dropzone.
Somebody had to say it. 
A nitpick: You knew Guy Friend in high school and recently reconnected. You haven’t known him since high school, which implies some continuous/ongoing contact.
If hubby is really cool with you running off to meet up with some guy you’ve text flirted with for weeks, then he’s either a doormat, a fool or doesn’t care about your marriage.
I said essentially the same thing Blackstock said in the immediately following post. Yet you found mine bordering on offensive and his “inciteful”?
It is not a revelations of any kind to say that your husband knows you better than any man you’ve ever known. That’s as it should be. Though I’ll concede it’s not the case for every marriage.
My guess, and it’s just a guess afterall, is that your husband isn’t as blindly devoted to your marriage as you (or he) claims to be. Unless, like I said before, this is a new game you two are discovering that you both enjoy. In which case, have it. Hope it’s everything you both hope it will be.
The danger of course, as others have already said, he’s just not that into you anymore. Which, for you, may or may not be an issue.
Also… what sister agrees to billet her brother’s former highschool friend from 14 years ago in her house? Makes no sense to me. I guess I’m too much of a misanthrope to trust that whole scenario.
I knew his sister too. She was a few years older, but she remembers me.
I guess she thinks it’s a better place for me to.stay than on the couch at Guy Friend’s place he shares with his roommate and roomate’s girlfriend.
As for all those other questions, I’m too blissed out on Afternoon Delight with hubs to answer coherently.
(Practicing the whole stealth brag thing 
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What? And miss out on a foursome? Think of the stories you’ll have to share when you get home!
I see you’re already warming up.
Yup.
April, I don’t know if you’re naive, deliberately obtuse or what. If you were a guy I’d say you were thinking with your dick. Quit this whiny bullshitting and think about those kids and your marriage. Your husband isn’t reacting like any normal guy would so something more is going on there, too. Wake up before it’s too late.
Good luck.
I don’t know that the OP had a guy friend to lose. It doesn’t really sound like friendship to me. Axing the flirtation will probably ax the “relationship.”
Y’all are so cynical.
You make my life sound like a playboy article. I assure you it isn’t that exciting or scandalous. Pretty sure Guy Friend and I are going to be alright, and hubs is reacting very maturely and I am really grateful for that
I get the feeling you both know what you’re doing.
Good luck with everything.
Those are actually pretty boring and not even good reporting…Penthouse Forum on the other hand…brown chicken, brown cow!!!