I hope the guy wasn’t all nervous because he was going to dump her. That would be bad.
I can’t see a guy getting all dressed up to dump a girl.
<snicker>
I got an interesting response from my dad the first time I wanted to bring the guy I was dating home for thanksgiving vacation. When I told him he was in the Navy he was … doubtful. Dad spent 30 years in the Army. :dubious:
<didn’t stop me from sneaking a Go Navy! bumper sticker onto his car one time about 10 years after I married mrAru - a 20 year Navy vet :D>
No update yet? Now you got me wondering what happened.
A person whom I had been dating for about a year put on a “Surprise, you’re dumped” party for me, with all our friends in attendance.
I agree. I would flat out say no to any guy who talked to my parents before asking me. It’s none of my parents buisness who I marry, and I hate the idea that they would know before I do. Luckily my husband is not the old fashioned type.
Holy crap!!
That is shitty.
She was well intentioned – just trying to make the break-up as painless as possible. The party was first rate, but the beaking up bit sucked. A for effort but F for execution. BTW, we’re still friends nearly 35 years later.
Wow. “You’re doing it wrong” would have been a massive understatement if she was trying to make it “painless”.
Hey! Let’s bring in everyone we know to see your pain and amplify the humiliation! That will make the whole thing a lot easier!
The only way I can see a party like that truly being well-intentioned is if she had invited a bevy of babes with well-built “shoulders” for you to cry on. 
This blows my mind.
Is it their CHOICE who you marry? Of course not. How could it NOT be their business, though, in some ways? You’re their child, they want what’s best for you, why wouldn’t they take an interest in you settling down with the right kind of guy who may end up being the father of their grandchildren?
If you brought home a guy that was, in every way, shape, and form, a really bad match (let’s go all out and say, oh, active crack dealer with a rap sheet a mile long) - I’d hope they’d at least say something instead of going “meh. None of our business.” Particularly considering when the marriage falls apart it’s often the parents that end up helping their adult children put their lives back together for a while.
This is assuming one has normal parents, of course (and I realize I threw out an extreme example). In the case of toxic parents I can definitely see how it wouldn’t be any of Mom and Dad’s bidness. (It sure as hell wasn’t any of my dad’s business who I married.)
Update.
No.
My wife and I are flabbergasted. Our theory is he chickened out.
He should be nervous. A yes from her isn’t automatic though it probably would be a yes.
Bah, well maybe next time! 
Aside from that, was it a good party?
I agree. when I called my uncle (more like my dad) to tell him I was engaged I said “I have news!” Apparently he subscribes to your newsletter because he said, “I know, you got new tires!” It was the right answer.
A few years later his son (my cousin who is more like my brother) had been dating a woman we all loved for a while. Whenever he called any of us with news he had to start with “I have news, no I’m not engaged.” the same way the daycare calls and says “This is the daycare. Junior’s fine.” really fast.
I agree with this. A lot about marriage and weddings is steeped in tradition and this approach is a respectful nod to that. The cousin I just mentioned eventually did propose, but before he did he invited his beloved’s dad to lunch to talk it over with him. Not to ask permission, just to put the idea out there. From the speech her dad gave at their wedding, the fact that he did that seemed to make quite a favorable impression.
I thought I had a response to this until I read:
That is severely messed up. All I got was 2 dozen long stemmed roses.
Awww!
I got dumped over the phone while I was in the hospital with my kidneys shutting down after almost dying … and it wasn’t because Charlie was out of town or anything, he just didn’t feel like doing it in person. :dubious::rolleyes:
I got revenge on him though .. he had used the line about staying friends so my buddy Eddie and I invited him to go out bar crawling with us a couple months later after I got out of the hospital. We started at the TGI Fridays, segued into Maxwells Silver Hammer, then ended up a the Liberty Pole, where we sort of abandoned him on the dance floor. Charlie at the time was an absolutely gorgeous sort of long haired surfer dude frat boy, totally wasted and very hetero. Liberty Pole at the time was a fairly aggressive gay dance bar with an interesting back room. Oddly enough we never heard from Charlie ever again … where is the evil smiley when you need one!
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Mom is still calling the shots on the grooms personal appearance? How young are these crazy kids anyway?