We had dinner with a group of friends last night. Some time ago Mrs. L (through whom I know them) raised the issue of Trump etc. being a factor that would keep us from joining them. That was agreed to be a no-fly zone the next time we saw everyone, though one, John, dropped “Pocahantas” into a conversation. Grr.
With COVID and all we haven’t been back much till last night. Then John was talking about how the “truth” has to come out and offers to send everybody links to information he’s recently discovered. I didn’t protest; I’m the outsider in the group, so to speak. He said “Some of you may ask to be removed from the list.” And sure enough this morning there were emails to be read.
The first one had oan as its source. So I replied (but not reply all) with a link to politifact giving the lowdown on oan and asking to be removed from the list.
I suppose like everyone else I’m in a weird position. I’m thankful for John’s friendship and recognize a lot of good qualities in him. I don’t think it’s my job to change everybody’s mind, but I don’t plan to go along with them either. So I said WHY I disagreed.
IMO that’s the reason we’re failing—you can find a “cite” for anything at all on the internet. Mrs. L engaged him on this and she asked what sources I’d consult. I said AP, BBC, NPR…and she raised those with him, which he of course pooh poohed.
Next time there’s a dinner, I won’t go. Maybe the next 3 or 4 times. Mrs. L doesn’t want to burn bridges and I don’t think I have, but IMO “no means no.” If we’ve agreed that Trump is out of bounds and you’re going to bring up BS that implies he was right about an issue, that’s just an end run. It’s ironic that John says the truth shouldn’t be politicized but he picks sources that are virulent, isn’t it?
I guess my point is that it’s time to push ourselves a little—but just a little—out of our comfort zone. They’ll notice I stopped coming. Then maybe at a future dinner he’ll say, “You all remember that link I just sent…” and I can reply that no, we don’t all. And I like the fact that sending him that politifact is a way of saying, “These folks are liars and you’re spreading the lies for them.” Not that he’d believe that, but it’s on record.
It’s going to be a war of baby steps and probably attrition.