I want to smooch a good friend of mine. (long and rambling)

I have a good friend who I get along famously with. The problem: I am seriously warm for his form, and I’m pretty sure he has no idea.

My marriage ended a few months ago. In all honesty, it was over a long time before that. I haven’t had sex in quite a while, so this could simply be my hormones talking. Shouting. Whatever.

I worked with this guy for about 7 years. He was an amazing guy back then, too, but at the time I was married, so there was no hanky-panky on either part. He said that the only reason he kept working at that place so long was so he could still see me every day. We never lost contact with each other, but for the last two years or so, we never saw each other face to face. We kept in touch by phone pretty regularly. He was swamped with school and work, and I had my own shit going on. I was so stressed and upset after my marriage split that I didn’t phone him until recently to talk to him about it.

Suddenly, we talk on the phone all the time. He came over the other night, and we had a few drinks and talked about old times. (I got two nice snuggly hugs…one hello, one goodbye. Yowza.) I made him laugh so hard that he cried. He gave me his cell number so I can reach him anytime. Sunday, we’re going out to a movie.

I don’t know if he’s just being a good friend, or if there’s more interest there. I’d hate to freak him out by hitting on him. If he’s NOT interested, I don’t want to scare him off, because I’d be happy with us just being good buddies. We’ve always been majorly flirty with each other, so I think I’m just going to keep that up, and wait for him to make the first move. No hurry, right?

Wish me luck,

Alexx

P.S. Did I mention that he’s a competitive bodybuilder? Yowza, again!!

Snuggly hugs are always a good sign…

a) Good Luck
b) Sounds like there could be some receptivity, based on your description
c) Hi Opal! (first time I’ve done that)
d) Why not just try asking him if he’s interested in exploring more than friendship? Make it clear it is something you are thinking about, but would not want to jeopardize the friendship if the interest wasn’t mutual? As a guy, I would appreciate the direct question, framed in a way that I could handle with…honor. Heck, to make it even more straightforward - write him via snail- or e-mail…

Is he single? If so, he seems interested.

You may have to take the first step, though, if you’ve been flirty for a long time. These signals weren’t acted on in the past, so their meaning is cloudy now.