I second this.
Trust your gut, your heart WILL deceive you. EVERY. TIME.
Also? Do not LEND money to friends, co-workers or family. Once again–seldom turns out well.
Study abroad! Don’t not go do stuff like that when you’re younger for no good reason because it will never be that easy again. Go live in a foreign country for a year or something. Once you get that good job and buy that house the chances you are going to go to Japan for a year are slim and getting slimmer every year.
Doctors have a technical term for people who rely on the rhythm method. They’re called “parents.”
Happiness >= money.
Marriage is for suckers. No matter how tempting it seems, the pitfalls of occasional loneliness are a walk on the beach compared to the misery of being stuck with someone whose guts you hate and whom you fantasize being dead on an hourly basis.
ND: the more intensely you love her right how, the greater the chances you’ll hate her guts some day.
Don’t let anything you enjoy develop into a mere habit.
Take the job with the higher salary, not the one that looks like it might be more fun.
Personally, I think you’ve got this backwards. I took a 6K/year pay cut and lost stock options to get out of a corporate bullshit job and back into a job in academia that I love. YMWV
Identify and nurture your most important friendships, irrespective of distance and time.
I’ve watched others’ solid friendships crumble because of a lack of effort while I’ve watched mine thrive; I’m a much more stable and happy person because of it.
Don’t join the lemming herd and follow “get rich” schemers off the cliff. This includes lottery tickets, family/friends who recommend hot stocks, and any type of gambling. The odds favor the house, and the deck is always stacked against you.
As told to me by my best friend, after leaving a relationship with a chick who falsely accused me of raping her as a revenge lark for some imagined slight…
“No matter how cute she is, do not put your dick in the crazy.”
When you get serious about a girl, get to know her mother. She will turn into her mother very quickly.
If you want to have a better relationship with someone, do it now.
It’s later than you think it is.
It’s better to regret something you did, than to regret something you didn’t do. So don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Jump in and get wet, fuck it up a few times, and never take the easy way.
Always use a condom. I don’t care if she says she can’t get pregnant, or if she says she is on the pill, or if she says she has a IUD or any other excuse for not using a condom. Always use the fucking condom. ALWAYS!
Some people just aren’t into you. You can’t force, ply or persuade someone into thinking otherwise. Just move on.
Something I learned the hard way: Don’t say something bad about someone else in a public place.
Also: Stick up for yourself. Even if things blow up, at least you’ll still have your self-respect.
Whoops, that’s two!
I have two unrelated ones.
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Always take note of your surroundings. If you notice that guy over there looks a little weird, listen to your inner voice and avoid him. Noticing in advance gives you more options.
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Think about what you’re going to say. If there’s a way to say something that won’t hurt someone’s feelings and way to say it that might, use the first one. Lots of misunderstandings and hurt can be avoided through simply considering your phrasing.
People are not looking at you. They are looking at themselves. They will not remember the stupid, embarrassing thing you just said or did because they’re too busy remembering their own embarrassing moments. Don’t worry so much about it.
One more:
When you’re drunk, people look more beautiful than they really are. When you’re drunk, you look uglier than you really are.
Happiness is everything…when happiness is gone theres nothing left
ALWAYS make sure you have something that makes you truely happy
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. (Maya Angelou, I think)
Never take a “no” from someone who didn’t have the authority to give you a “yes” in the first place.