I do the same thing. Total amounts when it’s being given a couple of dollars at a time can get confusing, and mostly forgotten. I give a fair amount, because then it is reasonable to ask for it back and most would feel like a shit if they didn’t pay it back. Say “here’s $50, have a good night and pay me back tomorrow”. They always payback… and I end up looking like a cool person.
But I’m such a tight arse that if I was in your situation I would made little comments through out the night as well as making them ask for the money a drink at a time to make a point.
Maybe he has a serious drinking problem? This behavior sorta fits the profile.
On the other hand, he could just a selfish prick. Either way, ditch his ass.
I do the same thing. Total amounts when it’s being given a couple of dollars at a time can get confusing, and mostly forgotten. I give a fair amount, because then it is reasonable to ask for it back and most would feel like a shit if they didn’t pay it back. Say “here’s $50, have a good night and pay me back tomorrow”. They always payback… and I end up looking like a cool person.
But I’m such a tight arse that if I was in your situation I would made little comments through out the night as well as making them ask for the money a drink at a time to make a point.
I do the same thing. Total amounts when it’s being given a couple of dollars at a time can get confusing, and mostly forgotten. I give a fair amount, because then it is reasonable to ask for it back and most would feel like a shit if they didn’t pay it back. Say “here’s $50, have a good night and pay me back tomorrow”. They always payback… and I end up looking like a cool person.
But I’m such a tight arse that if I was in your situation I would made little comments through out the night as well as making them ask for the money a drink at a time to make a point.
Hell, no! He didn’t really ask permission to do anything. He just showed up, sorta quietly mentioned he had no cash, heard me sympethetically cluck that the same expired ATM card thing had happened to me, and was off to the races.
He didn’t ask permission for any of this. He just asked for a beer in the first round we got after he showed up, and kept ordering all night.
I don’t think he ever thanked any of us the whole night.
It never ceases to amaze me that people will do this. I’d be mortified to go into a bar knowing I had no cash unless someone dragged me in. I wonder sometimes if it’s that hard core moochers like this are so socially retarded they really don’t have a clue how they are coming across, or they know perfectly well how they are being regarded but once at the trough don’t really give a crap as long as the food keeps coming and the mark … um… “host” is willing to play along.
I agree with those who have suggested lending the guy a specific amount of money so he can pay for his own night out, and then pay you (or someone else) back later.
If the guy had any class, this is what he would have done in the first place–asked someone for a loan. Maybe he just figured that if he got a bit of a loan of everyone, by simply drinking on your tab all night, then no-one would ask him to pay it back.
Damn, if I didn’t have any cash, I wouldn’t even leave the house.
Sounds like a real clasy guy.
Billdo, why don’t you go over to his place, and without asking, go make yourself something to eat and drink some of his beer.
If the notion comes up, pee on the floor.
[sub]Peeing on the the floor is an option, crap if you want to, it’s your call.[/sub]
Actually, I consider this a rather good investment in education. For the cost of one night’s drinking, we’ve learned that he’s a freeloading asshole. If he were more subtle about it, he could have strung us along for a lot longer.
I have a friend that is sort of like this. It is just his way; he is expected to be covered in hard times, and he expects you to ask in hard times. A shirt of the back kind of guy, he figures you wouldn’t offer if you couldn’t cover him. Took some time getting used to, but he’s not an actual freeloader… just seems like it, until you need something.
Guy #1 asked Guy #2 if he could bum a cigarette. While Guy #2 was getting the cigarette out of the pack, Guy #1 also asked if he could borrow a match. Guy #2 said that was no problem & took out the cigarette, put it in his own mouth, took a match and lit the cigarette. Guy #1 then asked what he was doing. Guy #2 said, “Heck, figured I might as well smoke it for you too.”
Monty Friends and I do that back and forth sometimes when we have smokes and someone is out. If they ask for a light too we jokingly ask do they want us to smoke it for them?
As to the OP my friends and I have this general thing where whoever has money will pay for the pitcher, or we’ll switch back and forth for every pitcher we drink. Of course I’m exempt from this as I can’t drink right now and I stick to soda or water. That is a definate mooch though.
He sounds like a schmuck. I’d be okay with it until he ordered the burger and fries. I’d have probably said something at that point, “jokingly,” like “Whoa! Who said anything about buying you dinner?” or “I hope they’ll let you wash dishes to pay for that burger and fries.” Or something. You other guys would end up paying at the end of the night anyway, but at least he’d know that you noticed he was being a freeloading ass.
Anyway, BILLDO, if you ever get to Seattle the beer’s on me.
Not to excuse his behavior in anyway, but it sounds like he might rather drink than treat others decently. Having been a similar kind of guy in a past life, he probably isn’t too happy facing himself in the morning mirror. Hopefully he’ll get it together and make what amends he can.
