I almost hijacked another thread with this, but decided to be polite. The other thread discussed something about asian people feeling compelled to refuse a gift when initially offered, but ultimately accepting it. This reminds me of “who will pay for dinner” nuttiness of my parents’ generation.
As a child/teenager, I’d often be dragged along to a restaurant, amongst many adults. At the end of the evening, the waiter would present the bill to the table. LET THE GAMES BEGIN. All adults at the table would rush to their wallets/purses, and the quickest draw would produce a credit card. Other assembled adults would throw cash at and credit cards at the alpha credit carder, and the inevitable “no LET ME PAY FOR THIS” “no, PUT YOUR MONEY AWAY” crap would begin. eventually, this whole song and dance would go on until everyone assembled vowed to pay “next time”.
Anyway, as a teenager I relished in being able to ridicule the adults during this whole nonsensical exercise. but they were too pre-occupied with trying to throw money at each other to notice.
The alarming thing is, that lately, i’ve caught myself doing the same thing. We all know the bill thing is coming, and we all know the “who pays” song and dance routine will be played out.
I don’t know where I’m going with this… but, someone, somewhere must have a solution. I don’t want to turn into my father