This. A thousand times, this!
Yeah, probably. They seem to understand me and like me for who I am so they’d probably do just fine.
Although, if I can’t find this guy I don’t know how the hell they would!
My mom keeps saying that I should find a “nice Amish boy” to marry (my family has ties to the Amish community) but I have to remind her that theirs is not necessarily a female-friendly culture. So hopefully she gets the message that no, really, I should not find a nice Amish boy to marry.
Oh, and I hate beards too 
They wouldn’t have done a BAD job.
I dunno. They probably wouldn’t have entirely cocked it up, and arranged marriages do have a good success rate. They wouldn’t have picked anybody stupid. But they’ve never really liked anybody I’ve brought home, either. (Of course, I am now officially not with any of those people anymore, so what do I know?)
No, they would not have done a good job.
I think my mom might have done a good job… she understood a lot of what makes me tick. On the other hand, it would be hard to do worse than the utter failure that is my own record of long-term romantic involvement: only two short relationships in my whole life, neither over four months long…
I don’t think it’d have been a disaster, but probably not really. My mother has introduced me to guys she found appropriate, and while I’m sure they were perfectly nice men, they weren’t my type physically or personality-wise. I don’t know what she liked about them, but introverted guys do nothing for me.
My dad probably would have done a little better, since he actually seems to understand what I like in a guy’s character, but he’d probably try to marry me off to our favorite library employee despite the fact that Dan is ten years younger than me 
My mom would have done a good job, but I would have rebelled as was and still is my wont to do. This whole " Better be Irish and Catholic" thing was something I was pretty annoyed with my whole life. WTF was so great about being catholic. Irish, well yeah,I could get that. A whole country ( two even.) beer and whiskey and the music…oooooh, I love the music! But, there are no perks to being a Catholic.
My husband is neither and she adores him, despite his bloody Germanness and he talks to her like she is a sane and rational lady. It’s a good time they have and I can ignore them both.
I think I asked a very similar question a few years ago. Ah, here it is. I haven’t changed my mind.
I married exactly the kind of guy my parent would have wanted. Responsible. Liberal. Personable. A good provider.
I’d be as happy as I am now, which isn’t saying all that much.
Possibly. At first my mother (my father would not get involved) liked my fiancee, but at the last minute she tried to stop the wedding for utterly mysterious reasons (it was happening too quickly, was the only answer she gave). Eventually she came to love my mate. There is no way they could have arranged a marriage that didn’t appeal to me. Funny thing is that had she picked a wife for me, she might well have chosen my wife. At any rate, 47 years later it was an excellent choice.
I had a cousin whose mother didn’t arrange his marriage but rejected girl friend after girl friend on the grounds that they were gold diggers. Doubtless some of them were (the family was very wealthy), but the one who realized she had to court cuz’s mother got the prize and she was a real gold digger.
My mom would have said she’d do it, but put it off and never gotten around to it.
My dad would have picked the first woman he knew that would have been right for him.
No, everyone in my family either has really low standards on what a good living and those who don’t would fix me with a douche bag on purpose. My mom once suggested I should date a neighbor who liked me because he was frauding disability and getting 2,000 a month. I won’t find that many men with THAT kind of income. So, I don’t take her dating advice very seriously.
I picked my first husband, and things eventually went downhill. If I’d let my parents arrange a match for me instead, they’d have gone for a guy they liked, not necessarily someone I would’ve gotten along with; I have the feeling such a marriage would’ve blown up even more spectacularly. That said, my mom kept trying to get me to date a male friend I’ve known for years. He’s a nice guy, and we get along, but we’re just not suitable for each other as romantic partners. Even now, when the subject of my being single again comes up, she’ll say something like, “You know, you should look up your friend X and see if he wants to go out. He’s so nice, and he’s single now…” ad nauseam. For the last time, Mom, X and I are friends, and that’s all we’ll ever be! Neither of us is interested in the other!
My parents can’t even pick out a Christmas present for me without my Amazon wish list, and they’d much rather I just told them what to buy off of that.
So no, I don’t think they’d have been that great at picking me out a wife.
I think they would have. They may not be able to buy me Christmas gifts, but that isn’t from not knowing what I want, just that what I want requires technical knowledge to pick the best one. But they inevitably realized what was wrong with any dates I did have, and why I wouldn’t continue to like them.
I tend to think about those things with my little head, rather than my big one.
I dunno, maybe. My dad would’ve insisted on some guy with a degree in physics, which I’d be okay with (I consider myself a scientific kind of person anyway), and my mom would want me to be with someone who could hold a decent conversation and had his life relatively together. Whether or not it’d actually work, I dunno, but I think they’d do all right.
Absolutely not! For starters they’d have fixed me up with a woman and she’d probally expect me to have sex with her. :eek::eek:
By going what my father has told me about relationship dynamics, he’d probably consider any (black) guy with a pulse and dollar to his name a suitable catch for me. It would be my job to rehabilitate or overlook his flaws.
99% of people drive me nuts if I have to spend any time with them - I’m still not sure I’m really suited to a marriage where I pick my own partner! I’m very much in love with someone and have been for years but I still have this niggling feeling it would be best for me to have as much space in my life away from other humans as possible… we’ll see what happens.
My parents and I don’t understand each others views very well, but I respect their judgment on many things and have always liked their friends. They’re both smart and like other intelligent people, my mom values a handsome man, and my dad is a lovely human being with a knack for picking out people just as nice and honorable. They might have done all right for me.