Just tossing this in … because I haven’t yet had coffee:
This bit:
JFC, man, you seem to be getting really worked up over this trivia, to the point that unfortunately you seem to be misinterpreting a lot of what I said to fit your rapidly developing bias.
This isn’t the same thing as telling somebody to “Fuck right the fuck off” in the pit. It feels much more akin to a man calling a woman ‘hysterical.’
The old saying, “People may not remember what you said, but they will remember how they made you feel?”
Oddly – but, IMHO, not at all coincidentally – that comment of yours was what stuck with me about that whole exchange.
Please don’t make the mistake of discounting or ignoring how incisive, personal, condescending, low, and outright shitty it comes off.