If you get married young, you are less likely to have fertility problems. Also, if the marriage falls apart, you will still have a lot of your looks left.
I wissh I married when I was 22! Go for it! Best of luck.
I find it amusing that the reigning champ of sucky writing would say that.
If marriage is imminent, shouldn’t the sucking be reserved for your spouse-to-be?
No reason to be a fanatic about it.
Oh, hell yes. Let’s see, he missed the births of both of his children, he missed the first year of his son’s life and the first six months of his daughter’s. He shipped out on a six-month Med run* and the next day I went into labor.
There have been other issues, plus, he’s on workers comp now due to a back injury and he can’t work. Oh, and last week he quit smoking cigars, so that’s been a wee bit stressful.
Look, I’m not saying it can’t work. But I’m not the same person I was when I was 22, and he’s not the same person he was when he was 25. Sometimes you can stay in love with the new person…sometimes you can’t. Waiting a bit until you are mature can ease some of the growing pains in the marriage. We certainly had some rocky patches.
*Or, we thought he was. It turns out it was just a training cruise for the day, his goddamn captain knew it, knew I was about ready to pop, and still couldn’t leave him behind for the day even though he knew it wasn’t the official departure date. Pissed Ivylad off all to hell and back again.
Married at 22, coming up on 12 years now. Best decision I ever made. And we’re solidly middle-class, maybe a little on the high side but not much.
As a society we seem to be stretching childhood out further and further. If you can’t make your own decisions by the time you’re 22, when will you be grown up enough to do so?
I started dating mrsin when I was 17. We married when I was 21. 30+ years later, life is good. YMMV, only you know what is right.
For what it’s worth all of our family units thought I was preggers and the marriage would last less than a year. I was not and we’re still the happiest people I know.
We could have gotten married at 22. Lady Chance and I started dating our first year in college (go Frostburg State!). I was 19 and she was 18. We’ve been together ever since.
What with getting through school and first jobs and such we ended up getting married at 26 instead of 22 but we’re still together and, as I said, could have married at any time after that first few months. We’ve been married for 14 years now but we’ve been together for 21.
You’re old enough to make up your own minds. Besides, even if it turns out to be a mistake (which I’m not saying…not with my romantic background!), it’ll be YOUR mistake. Fuck 'em if they don’t get that.
Congratulations !
My 25 year daughter just got married at 25, and I was somewhat concerned because she won’t have much time as part of a young childless couple which I think is a precious chapter in one’s life.
Not that she’s pregnant, but that biological clock does tick.
I’ll be the dissenting view in this thread. I think you’re way too young to be contemplating such a serious commitment in your life.
After all, I waited until I was 23. (Of course, my wife was 22 at the time, but that’s TOTALLY different!)
There was a time in America when any woman who was not married by age 18 was considered an old maid.
Why, in the 19th Century, every girl in Utah married Young!
I married my first husband at 21 after dating for several years and was wayyyyy too young. If I could do it all over again, I would have never gotten married then. That clearly doesn’t mean that you’re too young. The people-not-closest-to-you in your life must still care about you to even be concerned that you may be marrying too young. Perhaps there are blessings here.
AngelicGemma and future spouse, may you have a beautiful marriage and grow through every struggle and joy. (There have been a number of posters on this board who have written about doing that.)
I got married at 19. We worked our asses off at it for 9 years, realized we had made a big mistake and parted friends.
I hope you were more successful than I was.
AngelicGemma,
Here’s wishing you all the best. 22 is young, but not too young in your case, from what you describe. Just love each other, be patient as you grown together in this marriage. You will grow, and it will be hard at times, but the main thing to remember are respect and love.
My brother married his high school sweetheart when he was 20 and she was 18. They’ve now been married, and happily so, for over 30 years.
You are both very lucky to have met each other so early in life. Don’t mind the naysayers, a lot of them mean well, they may have been burnt in bad marriages themselves. Trust each other, and believe that you can build a good, happy life together.
Fuck all the rest. (Obligatory pit sentence)
If you get married there was no problem.But my opinion is you can wait for some time is more better.
What’s this crap about being too young? 400 years ago, you’d be grandparents, already.
Everyone I know warned me about getting married at 27, all the cliched jokes you expect from your mates about saying goodbye to your freedom, never having sex with another woman again - all that bollocks. To be perfectly honest being married isn’t any different to being in a long term relationship,you have all the same problems as you would have so I say go for it, it’s an excuse for an awesome day!
(Might help if you have the lead singer of Basement Jaxx singing with an awesome live band for your reception!)
Good luck. Don’t worry about what anybody else says; it’s between you two.