But you haven’t even had time to have a string of bad relationships and become a desperate, bitter 30-something single!
Married the DH when I was 19 and he was 23, after dating for six months. Been together now (happily, I might add) for 22 years as of this past September.
Wishing you both all the happiness and success in the world, Gemma!
I got married at 20 and it will be seven years this year. We dated for two years, lived together one. The first few years were not, in our case, hard, and I don’t regret anything. You guys will be fine, congratulations.
I am so stealing this for future use. Many thanks.
Just tell everyone that you are pregnant or are each others beards and are getting married for insurance reasons.
That’ll shut them up.
Best of luck.
Dam right AngelicGemma!
Good luck to you.
IMHO Age has got nothing to do with the sucess of a marriage.
For my two pence worth, I was 23 when we married and my wife was 20. We’re still happy after three years despite all the ups and downs that marriage brings. Like you we were together for a while before we married, and that’s a good thing no matter what age you are.
Seems to me your parting as friends was a success, given how horrific many divorces are. Well done.
My husband was 19, I was 23. We’ll be celebrating our 20th anniversary in March.
Good luck to you both!
Mr. Lissar was 22 when we got married. I was 24. Five years anniversary next week, which will probably be followed a week later by the birth of our first kid.
It’s been great. Congratulations to you both.
(My best friend and her husband married eight months after us, at twenty, and have had a wonderful four and a half years so far. I’m still bitter that they didn’t get nearly the, “Oh, you’re too young!” crap that we did.)
You’d be surprised with what people think is young, especially my friends (mostly independent female college students) when you talk about a college student who plans on getting married, they give such a revolted gasp you would think that I had just told them that said engaged person has contracted every STD known to man and has been beaten stupid and blind. Followed by a “She’s too young to get married!”- never mind the fact that people used to get married at a much earlier age :rolleyes: . I know they can’t imagine settling down this early, and that’s fine. It’s just annoying as fuck when they look down on the people who wish to, as if that makes the engaged a lesser of a person for already picking someone to spend the rest of their lives with.
As to the OP, congrats. Ignore all of the moronic naysayers and busybodies. Unless they’re your conjoined twin and know every little detail of your life, they’re in no position to tell you that you’re to young to get married.
I got married at 25 and it was too young for me. The same is true for all of my friends who married in their 20s (i.e. none of them, save two couples, remained together.) I think that if I had waited longer, my marriage would have lasted. Other folks, if they had waited longer, they may have changed their minds about getting hitched in the first place.
If you ask me (did someone ask me?), for the most part you have nothing to lose by waiting to get married, and a lot to gain.
However, I also think it is quite rude to make personal comments about other people’s intimate relationships, so I never offer such advice unless asked.
Maybe part of it is the whole “People my age are getting married?!” thing. I know when a couple of my university friends announced their engagements (one my age, one a year younger) it kind of forced me to adjust my mindset a bit, since until that point I still thought of marriage as something people did “when they got older”. It didn’t help that one of them announced it on the same day that I was lamenting my single status.
I got married at 26 and still managed to work all of that in, so there’s hope!
Seriously, all of the best to both of you.
I got married when I was 12, and it’s been bliss ever since!
Great for you! If you’ve been together five years, instead of five months, I personally, as the OP of the thread you’re referring to, have no ill thoughts of it (not that you care, I’m just saying)… 
Statistically, people are waiting longer these days for their nuptials, but even so, 22 is not too young to get married. In 1967, several classmates of mine walked down the aisle a week after getting their high school diplomas. Most of them weren’t even pregnant! 22 is fine, assuming you both have gone through the massive changes that most folks have roughly at twenty. That is, you’ve cast off the lines from your home dock, and you’ve gotten a handle on who you really are. Some folks get married before it happens, and they wonder what happened to that person they wed two years ago. :eek:
Congratulations and best wishes to you. Years ago, one spouse got the congratulations and the other got the best wishes. I guess that’s obsolete, now. I have forgotten which one gets which, anyway.
My dad’s 1955 high school yearbook had a special page devoted to all the girls who had already “Earned their MRS degree.”
I married at 22. We’re going strong eight years later.
My parents married at 21. They’re still together after 31 years.
I am NOT a sappy person. I don’t do “mushy.” However, I knew within four months of dating my current spouse that he was the one. I never believed in the old, “when it’s the one, you’ll know.” I’m practical. That is romanic bull. Or so I thought. Freaked me right out, it did. Still, we didn’t marry until 2.5yrs later.
I envy people who tell you exactly when you should marry/have kids/buy a house/change careers. It must be so nice to be absolutely certain of what’s right for everyone else!
Thanks for all you’re kind wishes.
But a question to those who have commented that perhaps we would be wise to wait. Can you explain to me why? The only answer anyone seems to give is that I’m not going to be the same person at 30 I was at 20. Well I’m not the same person I was at 18 when we started dating. I also doubt I’ll be the same person at 50 I will be at 30.
Personally, as an advocate of “waiting”, if you’ve been together a decent number of years, then you probably know what you need to know about someone to at least give it a good practical go. I guess I feel strongly that you can’t know the number of things about someone- how they express anger and how they apologize, how they hold grudges, how they manage money, how they deal with crises, etc. - within the span of only a few months. Sometimes it takes a while for certain things about someone to emerge. It’s not about AGE, it’s about bothering to see the vase from all sides before buying it.
I also think it’s less of “you shouldn’t get married now because” and more of a, “what is getting married NOW as opposed to a year from now going to give you?” Maybe there aren’t any specific reasons to delineate, only a vague sense that it’s better to wait a while and be sure, when rushing and doing it sooner isn’t exactly going to grant you anything in return, you understand? It’s functionally the same relationship whether you formally marry sooner or some degree of months from now. Marriage will not make a happy relationship BETTER, but if the relationship breaks, it’ll make separation that much worse.
At the ripe old age of 33, I look back at myself at 22 and just think of how incredibly young I was. Not necessarily naive, not immature, not stupid, just very young. I have had so very many experiences - both good and bad - since then. If I had met my husband back then I wouldn’t have had two words to say to him. Yes, you will be a different person in 10 years. Whether or not that will be a positive or negative factor in your marriage remains to be seen. The fortunate thing about being a young person getting married today is that we don’t necessarily look at divorce as a total failure. If I do what my parents did and remain married to my husband for 18 years and then we divorce, I’ll consider that a success! I haven’t been raised with the idea of divorce as a stigma and the fallacy of staying together forever no matter what. This is a hard concept for older people to understand. Of course I wouldn’t be married to him if I didn’t feel that we actually will be together forever, either. But I think that is part of people’s problem with getting married young - the idea that you’re “stuck”. You’re not - you have your whole life ahead of you regardless of whether you have a ring on your finger or not. (I hope this post isn’t going to come out sounding negative, because that’s really not how I mean it.)
So go for it! Congratulations and I wish you all the best!