Yesterday I made a lot of vocal, negative comments about a friend of mine. Apparently I was louder than I thought I was, and she heard every word. I feel like a total jackass. I’ve apologized at length, but once you’ve torn a pillow apart you can never piece all the feathers back together. I hope I lost a friend, because I deserve it.
Those are hard lessons.
I try to always say nice things and not negative things. I’m not always successful, but that’s just more reason to try.
I accidentally sent a mean text-message about a friend to that friend. :smack: :smack: :smack:
Very hard lesson, but it worked out in the end. She forgave me, and much quicker than I gave myself.
I feel sorry for your “friend”. 
What goes around comes around. I hope you don’t accidentally overhear someone talking shit about you. I’m sure it would hurt your feelings. Be more careful next time.
Ouch.
Relationships are like a bank account: you take a lot of trust and kindness out, you have to put a lot back in to restore the balance–and more, if you’re going to make it grow.
This is one of those life lessons that you need to have knocked over your head with a rock with, but after the little birds and stars stop floating around and the bump goes away, pick up the pieces and move on.
And hugs
Hopefully, the things you said were reality based and your friend realizes some things about herself that you’ve been too polite to say to her face. If she does, then you won’t have lost a friend and she will change those things. You can try to explain that the things you said may have sounded harsh, but you had to get them off you chest - no hurt was intentioned. Flowers to the job with an apology might be nice.
If they were just idle bull, then flowers and an exceptional butt kissing is in order.
I do too. Emotions were fiery, pretty much on my side exclusively; this all came out of some recent happenings which I’ve handled with all the maturity and wisdom of a high school freshman. Turned out, BTW, that she didn’t hear everything, she apparently just heard her name and enough scattered words to piece together the fact that I was talking about her. So I had a lengthy conversation with her where I told her what I had said, why I had said it, and why I had felt the way that I did about the issues involved. We worked out our issues and she’s forgiven me, which was really nice of her. I’m seeing her again today and I plan to tell her how much I appreciate that.
Thanks, but I hope I do for evenness’s sake.
Part of the issue involved is that I recently had a very strong interest in dating her, which is why I got so emotionally stupid about stuff. Apparently, she doesn’t and didn’t have a very strong interest in dating me, so I think the flowers might be inappropriate, or at the least would probably make her feel more uncomfortable than she already does. I’m definitely going to be taking her out to lunch on my treat for a while, though.
And thanks for the kind words, Kythereia ;j
Why would you want to say negative things about a friend? What good could possibly come out of that?