I’m not normaly a weepy person. Infact, I’m usually laughing my ass off at things that are just mildly humorous. But this past month has been hell.
I’ll be in the middle of something, not thinking about anything, then BAM! All the events of the past few weeks hit me all at once.
First week of Oct. - husband gets a call from work telling him not to come back in until they call him.
Second week - they call him, he’s fired.
Third week - He can’t apply for unemployment because he got fired. We can’t apply for food stamps because we still have money in the bank. My son doesn’t qualify for disability because we made too much last year. And, nobody wants to hire someone who got fired. He gets a part-time job working for a friend making less than half what he was.
fourth week - Doctor gives me a perscription to control a neurological disorder, but tells me it will have little or no effect if I allow myself to get stressed …:rolleyes: Also gives me something to help with tension. Two new perscriptions, no insurance.
Halloween night I’m so glad October is over, maybe Nov. will be a good month.
Nov. 1 - I see my neighbor die in a tragic accident, and become overwhelmed with the fact that I wasn’t able to help him.
This week - my husband got hurt at the part-time job and can’t work for atleast another week.
I’m so sorry, hon. You’ve really had a difficult time lately. I know it’s hard to hang in there, but I’ve seen your wit and spirit in your previous posts, and I know that you’ll pull through this time.
And repeat this to yourself, many many times each day, if necessary: Your neighbor’s death was not your fault. It was a terrible thing to be a witness to, but you did everything within your power, and truth to be told, there was probably nothing more you–or anyone else–could have done. Remember, you saw a terrible accident after the fact. Try to breathe through the stress and find peace with yourself.
Now the practical stuff: Do you have a local Salvation Army, homeless shelter, food bank, etc? Give any one of them a call, explain your situation, and ask them to refer you to resources. It’s amazing how much help is out there, if one knows where to look or who to talk to.
I’ll be thinking of you and your family. Email me if I can do anything, or if you need to vent.
{{{{Hillbilly Queen}}}}
I’m also here if you need me, and I can see how being given a prescription which will have “little or no effect” if you get too stressed" doesn’t help at a time when money’s already looking tight. :rolleyes:
You’re smart, sensible, and tough, but you knew that already, right? If things get tight, go to the local churches for help. I don’t know if you’re religious, but whether you are or not, churches are supposed to be there to help people.
hillbilly queen, I’ve always enjoyed reading your posts here, and throught those, I know that you’re a tough, confident woman who will be able to get through this. I’ll be thinking of you, and praying for you. If you need to vent, I’m here.
Seems like when it rains it pours. Sorry to hear about the tough times you are experiencing. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Try not to get stressed, easier said than done, but stress is more of a killer than people realize. Take a deep breath and look for people to help you. There are places that will you just have to find them.
I’m very sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing - I wish you strength as you work through this time. Everything you are describing sounds so challenging, and having to take them together must seem impossible. You come across as a strong, thoughtful person - please continue to be that way, and you will endure and thrive.
Hi hillbilly queen, I am so sorry that things are not going your way lately.
About the unemployment; my husband was fired from his job two years ago and was at first denied unemployment, but he talked to his case-woker, described the unfair way in which he was fired, and he ended up getting the full amount of unemployment he was entitled to. Please advise your husband to fight for what he is entitled to.
We were utterly depressed when all this happened, but two years later we live in a new state, my husband loves his new job, and things have been going well (knock wood). Please try to keep your spirits up. Great things might be just around the corner!
We Tennesseeans are survivors (I’m a transplant, but I feel Tennesseean). Hang in there; things will turn around, as they always do, and there will arrive a day when you’ll say, “Well, back when I was in dire straits, we TOUGHED IT OUT…”
In the meantime, you have my most sincere sympathies, and if there’s anything I can do, do not hesitate to let me know. (I still remember gratefully your comments about my feet.)
Sounds like you’re having a really tough time. Hang in there! Eighteen months ago I thought our world was falling apart – we had financial troubles, and our marriage was under a huge strain because of a particular situation I won’t describe here. I cried almost every day and felt like I was losing my mind half the time. Now we’ve just bought our first house, the marriage is great and we’re even thinking about having a baby. Just remember that **this too shall pass ** and you and the hillbilly king will be stronger and better for it.