Ok so here’s the background
I lost my job in February and was subsequently unemployed for around 6 months, due to some other personal problems and basically being stuck in a rut, my Dad offers to take me in. I accepted it, as he was driving down the freeway saying he was coming to pick me up, I kinda had no choice.
So I move in, now, bear in mind I didn’t speak to my father for like 8 years previously, due to having a big argument with him and my step mom outside my grandmas. Plus my step mom sent my actual mom letters calling her names and whatnot, my mom sent them back, but I remember this from her.
Then it starts.
'My house my rules’
‘You haven’t wiped down the surface of the shower kitchen whatever down properly’
I do these things anyway however it’s the constant nit picking which is driving me fucking crazy, we’ve had constant arguments about my apparent lack of cleanliness. What really fucked me off was the first week down here, I was expected to eat with my step moms family every sunday on my own without really knowing anyone.
Well, that’s one thing, the other thing is my step-mom, I do not like my step-mom, however, considering I’m living in their house I’ve usually kept my talking with her brief and just kept out of her way, I just act civil and don’t try and cause any shit, because it’s pointless. We do not cross each other in the same room, and I avoid her at all costs.
Ok so now in November, after 6 months of living here, it’s getting to breaking point. What’s happening is that rather than asking me directly to do something, my step mom will post juvenile pieces of paper with ‘house rules’ on the wall, and today she recently added another one, purely because I was going to eat my dinner upstairs, which I’ve done ever since I’ve lived here, and now it’s a problem. I’m usually upstairs on my computer, but when she comes in, I can hear doors slamming, kitchen units slammed, she thunders around the house like something terrible has happened. This is kind of ironic considering I get along with my step brother quite well, as well as other parts of her family. My step brother does however live with his grandparents, and they only live a few streets away.
As for my father, he’s constantly complaining to my other brothers of how I apparently don’t make much of an effort to watch tv with him or talk with him or even sit in the same room with him. You know, I would on occasion, however I find it so uncomfortable to be around my step mom, and with my father too, I try to avoid them altogether. The reason being is that whenever I try and ‘relax’ with my Dad, he goes into authorative mode and lectures me or nit picks and criticizes me.
I consider myself a fairly decent person, I pay them rent, I’m employed, I try as much as possible to eat what I buy myself, I never ask them for money ever, don’t do drugs, smoke, or even drink alot. My only vices I guess are spending time on my computer and chocolate biscuits. (I have a social life, just highlighting what I usually do)
You know I’m 25 years old, not 12, and I’m able to comprehend various tasks to keep a house clean. I’m just wondering am I complaining too much? Or are they being over authoritative.
The rules on the wall was the last straw, because again like I’ve said I don’t go out my way to do anything wrong, but whatever I do is never enough. And for the past few days, I’ve just given up trying to shrug it off and ignoring it, I’ve become quite sullen around them.