This is about the same thing that happened to me. I got engaged and we talked about kids. A couple of months later she was pregnate. We went ahead and had our wedding when she was around six months and didn’t have any problems. We also went to Spain for two weeks, though that did wear her out a bit.
Personally, knowing what I know now I’d rather do the same thing and not wait until after the baby is born, you might be lucky to stay awake while getting married!
On a side note, we had a halloween party for our reception, I don’t know why someone at least didn’t dress up for a shotgun wedding, I know I would have, especially if I was her father.
Agreed:). Honestly, you’ll probably feel much better at 7 months than about anytime in your pregnancy, as the early exhaustion and nausea have usually dissipated, and you haven’t hit that “Oh, God, please just get this thing OUT!” stage yet :D.
If there’s already been money spent, just go with it. My cousin just got married at five months pregnant (okay, totally different story because she didn’t TELL anyone in the family she was pregnant until two days BEFORE the wedding, and it’s a big ol’ family controversy right now…just don’t do that), and she seemed to be fine. Just don’t spring it on the family when they show up to the shower two days before the wedding. :rolleyes:
Well, 7 months pregnant doesn’t usually feel miserable, nor typically are the worst of the pregnancy symptoms going on then. I am dying to know what kind of dress you are going to wear. Is is an empire waist? Can you link to something like it?
I think keeping the date would be best. It is most considerate to your family. Since you both want children and have had a while to get to know each other, this strikes me as a real blessing in many ways. Knowing that you won’t be faced with infertility is a good start.
Are you planning on a honeymoon? I would not want to fly that late.
Am I the only person who read this and thought (a) w00t! Christmas baby! and (b) Boy, that’s a long pregnancy… 12 months… then went back and saw (c) Oh. Found out on Christmas Eve that you’re expecting?
I think everybody’s covered the high points here–this is certainly doable; potential not-very-predictable health assues aside, 7 months is still usually a pretty active and energetic part of the pregnancy, and it’s very easy for “stigma” to rhyme with “humor.”
The fact that friends and family would be out of money would be my deciding factor as well.
If no one is going to lose deposits and any of that stuff you could move it back. I was planning to get married when I found out I was pregnant. I chucked the wedding idea and waiting until the baby was 9 mos. old so I could actually enjoy things again.
Just an idea.
I think by focus, she means preparing for the baby, like getting a room ready, showers, buying all the equipment, taking childbirth classes, planning the labor / delivery, going to Dr. appointments, etc. There is a lot to plan for with a wedding and a baby, so that would give more time for the baby stuff by itself.
There is a mental aspect for getting ready for a baby too though, and I can see how it would be overwhelming to try to do it all at once. By my third trimester I was seriously “nesting” and I would have gone crazy trying to plan a wedding if I felt unsettled. But with help from your family and friends things can go better. I hope you have a supportive mother or sister or friend to really lean on, plus your husband!
Make sure you do get enough rest and take care of yourself. I know many brides who are stressed out by their wedding day alone, you have extra to think about! I agree that moving the date up might not help though, I wouldn’t have wanted to get married during my first trimester at all. I would put 4-7 months as the best window, so you would only be moving things up a few months at most. Probably easier to leave things alone rather than try to re-plan everything.
I’m 6 months pregnant now and feel fine - link to a pic of me last week for New Year’s Eve, to give you an idea of bump size.
The only discomfort I have is needing to pee on a fairly regular basis! That said, it shouldn’t interrupt a wedding ceremony. Stick with your plans and enjoy!
I’m still thinking on the comedic aspects of this…
We’ve got Dad turning up with a shotgun. Check.
Now we need to have the menu printed for the wedding banquet. Keep it sensible, but slip in there somewhere “ice cream and ketchup”, “an entire bunch of bananas”, “a jar of pickles”, etc.
Wow. I go away for a day and I get 29 replies! Thanks so much for all the kind words and advice. I have a few family members who are really pushing me to move the date closer and go for something much simpler. The rest of my life will be a compromise of some sort with a baby, so damnit, just give me this one day! I really want to leave things as is. As many of you have said, my family has already made plans to come up, deposits have been paid, and I shouldn’t be feeling all that bad, at least not as bad as I feel right now.
I’m 6 weeks along today and feel pretty crappy. I was so nauseous this morning that I walked in to work and promptly walked back out half an hour later. Does anyone know of a good remedy for morning (Morning - ha! Try morning, noon, and night) sickness? So far I’ve tried sucking on peppermints, which helps sometimes, but not now, and trying to eat. I almost wish I would throw up just to make the nausea go away.
Sorry about the double post, but I just figured out how to upload pics of my dress. Sorry about the blotted out face in the one pic, but not everyone knows yet. So on the off chance that someone at work sees this thread, I’d rather play safe than sorry.
Check it out here:
I spoke with an awesome seamstress a week or so ago. She said there would be no problem altering the dress to fit. I ordered it a size too big to begin with due to the arm straps being a little too snug. In addition, there’s an extra 2 inches of material build in around my waist to make alterations easier. The hem that I need will have to come from the waist due to loads of beading and embroidery along the ends. This will make the waist area even bigger. The chest is already larger as well due to the size being so big.
Lady Chance says she swore by crackers, non-salted. She kept some for eating just before and after bed. I couldn’t swear it did much good but she says it was what saved her with our first.
There is a truism in our office that when a grown woman shows up with a box of goldfish crackers, you can bet she will announce a pregnancy six weeks later.
WRT morning sickness: DO NOT GET DEHYDRATED. Even if you’re sicking up everything, sip water, or take it by the spoonful if necessary, as much as you can. I learned that one the hard way: nausea leads to dehydration, dehydration leads to more nausea… um, ad nauseum.
My wife would eat crushed ice. Find a place which makes nice soft ice, if there is a Sonic drive-in near you they generally have soft ice, it may be easier than drinking. I remember going by the Sonic and picking up three large cups of ice each day on my way home. She’d eat her way through them and then drink whatever melted.
Those ginger Altoids? Taste way too strong and taste like crap, but they always worked on my nausea.
Also, there are these things called Preggie Pops and Preggie Pop Drops that you can find at Babies R Us or order online. Stupid freakin’ names, but they work.
