DoperChic, talk to your doctor. There’s some wooooonderful pills out there, specific for morning sickness. I haven’t been in the situation myself, but my SiL and the wifes of three of Bro’s friends were pregnant at the same time and they swear by the little pills.
WRT morning sickness - it’s like hiccups. Everyone has a remedy and they only work for the people they work for. Try everything and stick with what works for you.
I had success with citrus - lemonade, oranges, anything like that. My OB told me he had one woman that sniffed lemon Joy.
If it gets to a point where you are losing too much weight or getting dehydrated please do as **Nava ** says and talk to your doc. You can always get a shot or a (gulp) suppository or Reglan or Phenergan.
There are going to be people who criticize you and render (in my opinion) worthless judgement on you for being obviously pregnant on your wedding day. Some of these people may even be people you love dearly and whose opinion you value. Personally, I don’t think anyone has a right to judge you, and if they can’t attend your wedding and be doubly happy for you for your multiplied blessings, then don’t invite them, invite me instead, because I think you truly are doubly blessed and I am very happy for you.
But back to my original train of thought: I can’t answer any of your questions about how you’ll feel physically when you are seven months pregnant. As for propriety, well, if your families are conservative and hidebound in their thinking, then yes, you’re going to have some conflict, and you’d may as well get it over with as soon as possible. But if people you love and who love you aren’t concerned about the technical sequence of events, who else matters? Nobody, that’s who. You and your new family are all that matter. Of course, if you start going all bridezilla, demanding a fairy tale wedding with virgin-bride wedding gown and doves and unicorns, you’ll look a little silly.
Of course, it will be a very big day, regardless of whether the theme is folksy or formal. Even if everyone in attendance beams with joy at your obvious fruitfulness, it will be a long, tiring day, and you will definitely want to plan accordingly.
The only other advice I have is the advice I gave both of my sons as they endured the endless planning of their respective brides: The wedding is just one day; it’s the marriage that’s supposed to last forever.
For “morning” sickness – I’m due August 28, so just a little before you! – I’m finding that not getting too hungry helps. I know it seems counterintuitive, but if I make myself eat just a little something (especially protein – I’ve been eating a lot more crackers & peanut butter than I have since I was a kid!) I feel a lot better.
One of the things one of my books says is that the BRAT diet, for when you have the stomach flu, doesn’t really apply here since you’re not trying to get rid of a bacteria/virus or anything. So eat those things if they sound appealing, but not because they’ll make your morning sickness any better!
Ooh, also – my CNM said to add a vitamin B6 supplement along with my prenatals, and that seems to be helping, too. Check with your doctor/medical provider, though, just in case.
As for the wedding – if you can move it up without losing a lot of money, and your families really want it, AND you can still have essentially the wedding you want, then I would consider it. But if you can’t meet all of those criteria, then I say keep it when it is. For pictures, you could get some formals done sometime soon (if you have your dress already), so the photographer wouldn’t have to take as many creative shots.
Regardless – congratulations on both the wedding and impending motherhood!