I have been away from my family for years now.
Recently my father passed away. I have now had my life exsposed to all of them because of it. I got some of estate and they were all notified of where I live and many other details that I would have not wanted them to know. Oh well.
At a court date my aunt and uncle gave me notice that they were coming down. I was a little worried. They said that they were coming down for me. However they were very close to my dads girlfriend who at the point I had reason to believe she was going against me in court. She had contacted my lawyers and said things that would have lead to think this. Up until my aunt calling is what I had heard from her. My other aunt adn uncle had told not trust and belive dads girlfriend and neither my aunt or uncle on either side of my family though highly of the other side. I have not seen anyone in years and years.
So they are saying there is all kinds of money and they no where it is. All I have to do it trust then and go against all of the advice it had recieved.
The court date goes well and no one shows up at court. I call them after the hearing. They meet me at my dads house. My aunt is hurt that I did not do as they had asked. That being to call my fathers girlfriend. I brought wedding pic and my childern to meet them. They were disintrested in the pics and it was lukewarm at best. Of course the important papers that they had to give me for my fathers estate were forgotten.
My uncle told me and everyone in the room that my father would hate me getting anything. Thus making sure if there was any little place left where I though that my dad may have not hated me was gone. They told me dirt all of it nasty about the family the could remember. They asked very loudly if I had found my fathers porn collections. They then recalled that the last time we had been together that they had kicked my son and I out of thier house. I had forgotten until they reminded me. They did not care for the fact that I and my son came and went with out telling where and when who. I was over 18 but this caused them to much stress. I was never gone for days or day at a time. SO we left. They did not care if we had a place to go or not. We were there because I was in a bad relationship and need a place far away to keep us safe. So I asked if we could stay with them.
So now they do not understand why anything they said or did may have not upset me.
Am I off for not wanting to be happy that they are now wanting me to be a part of thier lives again.
It should also perhaps be noted that their kids have kids of thier own all 7 by different fathers and or mothers. That they all drink heavily and at the time I knew then did pot and some other things. That thier kids also have had at one relationship a piece that were very almost killed in. No college for either of them.
We have 0 in common and have made light fun of our vaules.
Am I wrong for not welcoming arms open?