When the shit hits the fan

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Damit.

I’m so lucky to have my Wife.

My brother disowned our Mother a year ago. I’ve tried in every way that I can to try to get him woven back in the family. He was my best friend. Now, I would have a very hard time even speaking to him. It’s all because my Mom was worried about him and spoke her mind about some really stupid choices he was making. She DARED to poke at the chip that is on his shoulder.

My brother is 50 fucking years old and can’t act like an adult.

Because I agree with my Mom, and I have been trying to fix things my brother will no longer speak to me. My brother lives right next door to my Dad.

That is my brother.

My aunt is dying. Our Moms sister. She may already be gone. Just waiting for the phone call. I and my Wife spent last weekend with her with my Mom. I’m 100 mountain miles away.

I can’t even begin to say how wonderful my aunt has been. She wants to die and can still laugh. She was transferred to a hospice yesterday. A hospice about 8 blocks from my brothers house.

My cousins are my best friends. My dying aunts daughters are the bee’s knees. They are there.

My Wife and I live 2 hours away, and we have plans to fly out to see my Wifes father for a surprise 80th birthday party.

Oh, and a good 20 year friend of my Wifes and I had some difficulty with a simple operation where they ended up taking her to Denver on flight for life. Found out about that a couple hours ago. She may live.

Don’t really know. My Wife and I are going to visit our friend in the hospital tomorrow.

If she is still alive.

And then visit my aunt in the Hospice.

If she is still alive.

I have a few pictures that I want to give to my aunt. Then we are off to my FIL’s 80 birthday surprise party (love the guy I do). I’m sure I’m going to get grief from my MIL for coming to the party because of the condition of my aunt. But my Mom and my aunt want me to go.

Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. My Wife has been a great help but has left the decision up to me. Her folks are not getting any younger, and I know that my Wife would like me by her side. That’s what I will do.

Life is for the living.

Don’t know why I had to express this on the Dope other than to say I like you guys, and I just needed a bit of a release. Words to paper, or bits sometimes helps.

Thank You.

Gonna be a long couple of days.

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If one of your aunt’s last wishes is that you should go to your FIL’s party then you should go. It may not feel like a carefree party to you but you are respecting her wishes so whatever else you are feeling it shouldn’t be guilt. Tell your MIL “Aunt Jane wanted me to be here”.

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Good luck, and best wishes for you and your family. Sounds like a really tough situation :frowning:

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Damn, that’s rough. I’m sorry to hear about it. hugs :frowning:

If you need to vent some more or whatever, my email’s up in my profile–prayers / good wishes / healing vibes are headed your way for your aunt and friend.

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enipla, that sucks. I’m really sorry to hear about everything and I understand about idiot brothers. It sounds like you have a great wife, which is wonderful.

You’re in my thoughts. I wish you well in these difficult days.

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Just wanted to say thanks for the well wishes. My Aunt passed and my Mom and Cousins are doing good. We had a nice service. My brother did not come because he says “I never want to see my Mother again”.

50 years old. Unbeliveable.

Not quite sure how he manages to balance the chip he has on his shoulder. Doesn’t seem to be working out to well.

It’s beautiful here today, I think I will take the dogs for a short walk and read the paper on the deck.