I’ve been getting ready to get pregnant by artificial insemination with donor sperm for some time now. The doctor I’ve been working with for almost a year has assured me that when I was ready everything could be set up and done in my home town. Like a fool, I believed her. Before I took my Clomid, one last time, I made sure everything was going to work. Shipping for sperm in place? Check. Lab ready to process the poor little guys? Check. Appointments for pre-ultrasound and insemination made? Check. I took fertility medicine for five days. The last pill was yesterday, and everything is set up for Saturday and Monday.
Then today my doctor’s office tells me the lab CAN’T do a crucial procedure with the sperm to prepare it for use. Their only consolation was to refer me to two other doctors in towns 50 and 100 miles away, respectively. I am a total stranger to these doctors and the insemination has to be done on Monday for the fertility meds not to be a complete waste. And you can only take so many cycles of this stuff before it loses its effectiveness.
One office said no way: I’m a stranger. The other one was very cagey. I’m so pissed off that I can hardly speak.
WHY couldn’t they have found out about this a year ago? Or, how about before I spent almost $100 on fertility meds that might be a complete waste?? I asked all the questions I needed to ask, set up everything to work out, only to be thwarted by people who didn’t do their jobs!! ARRGGGHHH! They didn’t even offer to pay for the prescription that I was assured it would be okay to buy!
And the nurse that gave me this little announcement asked, “Have you considered adoption?” … … :mad: :mad: :mad:
What the hell? It sounds like it’s up to your doctor’s office to make it happen. And if it means that your doctor has to personally get in touch with the doctors who can do the job and wheedle them into doing it, then she should be doing that.
That doesn’t sound right to me. It sounds like a major screw up.
It’s been a while since I worked in the fert clinic, but sperm from Cal. Cryo didn’t need any prep other than a thaw, a microscope check, and an insertion.
Personally, this would be the time that I’d raise a big stink with the doctor, and let them use their weight to make sure it gets done. Be sure to tell the Doc how the nurse has treated you too, because that’s inexcuseable. That Doc might want to reconsider using that lab in the future if they can’t do things right.
I’m very pissed off on your behalf. But I think you still have time to get something done about it.
Call your doctor’s office, and demand to speak with him (her?). They gave you false expectations that they were going to be able to do this, and even prescribed you the Clomid. They know darned well they have an obligation to see that you can go forward with this treatment.
If they can’t do it, then THEY should call another clinic and get everything set up for you. Having your own doctor’s office call typically makes all the difference in the world; schedules that were previously booked before can be magically found to have an opening just when you need it.
But make it clear that they owe it to you to see this through. If they don’t, then they were negligent in prescribing you the Clomid.
And I would complain about the insensitivity of the staffer who suggested adoption, too.
Yep. Definitely I’m going to call my doctor’s office. I always have a shortage of righteous indignation - natural doormat, I guess. I need to get tough and try to talk to my doctor. Perhaps a personal visit will get things done.
