mom gives me money. I don’t really need any cash. I don’t go out, for I have no friends. I enjoy watching movies or TV all day or videogames.
Everybody enjoys watching TV, movies, listening to music, playing video games and all that stuff. But you claim to be bored in your OP. Obviously entertaining yourself is not stimulating enough.
Now, you’ve gotten yourself into a bit of a social recluse state. Lot’s of people get like that, don’t worry. But it’s something you need to fix, or you’re going to find your following years to be far from fulfilling.
Getting a job is an excellent way of:
- Learning how to socialise.
- Learning new skills.
- Making new friends.
- Making money.
You say you’re not very good at anything. Well, believe it not, nobody is immediately naturally good at doing things. All of us had to learn at some point. So what’s stopping you? Strikes me as laziness really. Go apply to fast food places if you have to. My first job was at Pizza Hut when I was a young teenager, working in the kitchen. I didn’t have any ‘skills’ appropriate to the job, but then they often kind of prefer that - because they can mould you to follow their industry standards. (Of course, I didn’t follow them for long…)
Have you even tried applying for jobs?
It’s a really bad idea to rely on your parents for money for too long. It’s great that they’re willing to support you (kind of), but you need to make yourself independent.
I am a hugely shy person. In fact, it’s the primary reason why I dropped out of university the first time round (if I got to a lecture/seminar late and they had started I simply could not bring myself to enter. I’d remain silent throughout practically all conversation etc). It can be quite a crippling affliction, but you have to remember it’s all in your head. What broke the shyness barrier for me was going out to live in a different country (the complete opposite side of the world to where I was born) for a year. I’m not saying you should do the same thing, but you should do something to break out of this shyness. It’s not a personality quirk that needs to the definition of ‘you’. It’s something you can do without.
4 years ago I had a job at Hardee’s and it was not good. There was a spot where the floor was uneven, and the space in between the tiles was too deep. And sesame seeds and food always fell in the gap, and it was impossible to sweep. And I had to sweep and mop every night, and it drove me crazy. I worked the night shift so there was not a lot of customers except for a couple rushes so I spent most of the night cleaning and it was too hard. And in the one time per night when there were a lot of customers, I could not make food fast enough to keep up and there was a big delay. One night I got yelled at (not actually yelled at, but scolded or told off) for not getting the drive thru food out fast enough. Then I was really sad and hid in the corner and cried but luckily no one saw me. But I was trying my best but even then I was still taking too long. It took me too long to do anything and it was not done well. There were some other guys there who could get are their work done and then have some time just waiting around for the store to close, but I always had to work hard just to get all my stuff done so hopefully I could get home not too late. For I always worked until close, so I could not go home until everything was done. And this was during the summer, and then school started (and at this point I was still in high school). And I had to work late, so some days I would get out of work at 11, then have to be at school at 7 the next morning, then get out of school at 2 and have to be at work at 4. So I did not have a lot of time and I was tired and fell asleep in class. So then I quit that job so I could sleep more and not have to work and go to school at the same time. And since then I have not had a job.
This is ridiculous. I think we’ve all been had.
you can’t make this stuff up. why would you? it’d just be a waste of everyone’s time
I’m guessing what you need is socialization.
Good question.
Question answered.
so it is very disappointing that everyone thinks my life is a joke. Yeah I admit that I exaggerate some details (like it’s not true that I have no friends, but I only have a few friends and I only seem to see them rarely) but most of what I said in this topic is true. I have a hard time talking about serious things even in real life so I usually just try to make jokes about things. So now I finally try to open up and I am mocked. What should I do to be taken more seriously?
You buried Paul! You bastard.
I don’t get it
There is nothing anyone can do to avoid getting mocked on the Straight Dope. The first thing you need to do is stop assuming that just because one or two people think you’re trolling doesn’t mean everyone thinks your trolling. We’re not all one collective conscious hive mind (except when it comes to politics and kitties.)
Some people on this board are a little more on the blunt/mean side than others. It takes some getting used to.
As for your OP…
Socialization, even if you’re an introvert, almost always makes things better. If you’re bored, it might help to get in touch with your friends. If you don’t have any friends, this is a wonderful time to make some.
I guess I’d start here – what kinds of things are you interested in doing? What hobbies do you have? What are some things you’d like to learn?
At the end of the Beatles song Strawberry Fields Forever you can hear what sounds like someone saying “I buried Paul” which turned into an urban legend about Paul McCartney’s death. Different explanations came out and vary between the words “cranberry sauce” and “I’m very bored”.
Take your own life a little more seriously first. To me it sounds like you’ve lived a pretty damned sheltered life so far, you’ve had your mum there to sort out all your problems and haven’t been forced to actually do something about it yourself. If you’re not up to speed yet at work, your boss isn’t going to be the nicest person in the world. Stop thinking of them as parent figures for you and think of them as exactly what you are now; an adult. If they crack it with you, suck it up and accept the criticism. You weren’t thinking fast enough to get everything done. That’s something you can improve on, but it takes time. Giving up and going back to mummy for money isn’t going to do you any favours.
But maybe kitchen work isn’t for you. Try something else. Go to a job centre (you have those in the US, right?) and talk to a career’s advisor about something you could do to augment your college work. Even if it’s volunteer work, it’s something to train your head not to get overwhelmed with work load.
You’re not hard done by. It’s perfectly possible for you to get over all this, and I hope you do and eventually get to look back on how pathetic you’ve been.
Have you thought about a job in Data Entry? That requires fast typing skills, but you get to set your own schedule, and grammar is not required. I’m not saying that to be mean. It sounds like you have some socialization difficulties, so a solo desk-job like Data Entry might be right up your alley.
Never mind the troll-accusers. I for one have not 100% made up my mind, but benefit of the doubt and all that jazz…
What you’ve claimed about yourself is rather bizarre, frankly. Apparently you have a collection of movies on Laserdisc (an obsolete format), you’re an apparently twentysomething grad student who lives with his mother (who doesn’t let you use Google because there’s porn there), you claim to have no friends, but ask many questions that your “friend” wants to know answers to, etc. Hence the suspicion.
You ought to meet my daughter, she is a college grad, no job, toying with the idea of going to grad school, and is as bored as heck. She could teach you to knit, take you for a drive in my car practising her new mad driver skilz, or go for a 2 hour walk. Your mom will give you $20, I’ll give her $20, and you can go to the mall.
I also have a collection of movies on VHS (another obsolete format).
I was just kidding about mom not letting me use google. I am not even a grad student, I am only 20 and in undergrad. Most of the time when my “friend” wanted to know something, it was actually me. the truth revealed
haha
Are you the PSXer from GameFAQs?
no, I am his friend LHO on gamefaqs