Having a good-work life balance is important and devoting your entire life to your career can be exhausting and ultimately empty. But that’s not really a function of plumbing. I’m sure Unintentionally Blank would probably be equally happy if he found a less stressful job that gave him more time with the kids, and equally frustrated if he had to work a full time career and take care of the children like his wife did.
As for women still doing the majority of household chores- isn’t this a function of not enough feminism, not too much?
I don’t know what is going on with the household chores - I don’t know any couple in real life where the guy does more housework than the woman. I’m sure it exists, but I’m not personally seeing it. Maybe it’s a function of everyone I know being in our 40s - maybe couples in their 20s are splitting household chores up more evenly.
raises his hand My wife will readily admit I do 2/3 of the chores by time spend and 95% of the chores measured by sweat (since I do 100% of shoveling, raking, and gunk-scrubbing)
Hush, those are maintenance, not chores…and don’t cost against the bottom line.
(As does oil changes and car maintenance, spider squishing, BBQ-ing, and in my case, hot tub de-funking)
I’m sure the membership of this August group is mostly comprised of women without glass ceilings and husbands that gladly pull their fair share of the childrearing and housework. I can’t imagine that’s what it’s like worldwide.
(UB carefully refrains from saying anything that could erupt into a sexual equality land war)
Beauty is an attraction mechanism. Once within speaking range, all other traits can be brought to bear. Learning to use the tools you have effectively is the real challenge.
I understand your plight but from another vantage point. I am a large person and most people are intimidated by my size. It doesn’t help much that I dress to emphasize that. But I know that a quiet word or two can be the catalyst to breakdown that pent up nervousness people have around me and let them know that I am just a nice guy wrapped in a big body.
Most often, once they get to know me as a few do, they find the qualities that are not fleeting and of true value become obvious while my size and menacing posture pale and become less noticeable.
While there is a difference in the reaction we both get from people, there is a common thread in how it bothers us. That you accept yourself for who you are is more important than how others see you. I think that the rest of your attributes will eventually allow for you to find the opportunities and experiences that a lack of good looks might seem to hinder at first.
