Sounds to me like it’s a hostile workplace. Isn’t there some kind of law or governmental regulation on that?
Oh, I don’t intend to. Your mom is real fine - ask anyone.
Why do you care what black people call each other? We (white people) don’t use that word because it offends black people. If black people aren’t offended when they’re called that by other black people, then there is no harm being done.
And this is no way a one off deal: It’s okay for women to call other women bitches. It’s okay for one fat ass to call another fat ass a fat ass. And it’s okay for one gay guy to call another gay guy a queen, fag or queer.
I don’t concern myself with what people of a particular group that I don’t belong to want to call each other.
When black people use the word, they generally aren’t trying to make anyone feel inferior or afraid. I would prefer that no one say it, but If people can pull off using it without that baggage, that’s their business.
The old guy bar where I hang out has a similar but different problem. There is one guy who will “use the n word” from time to time, making the rest of us uncomfortable. Typically it is when a young black guy walks into the bar, acting “gangsterish”. He then says, loud enough to be heard, “Man, I hate niggers”.
He then tells the kid to pull up his pants, pay for his 40s and get the fuck out or else he’ll tell his mother. He is black. No matter how often we ask him to watch his language, he continues to do this. He’s a cool dude otherwise.
My parents occasionally used the P*** word here (west central Scotland) and I do take them to task for it. They got all offended, saying it’s not an insult, just short for Pakistani, like Scot is short for Scottish. I’ve tried explaining how it’s disrespectful and evolved into a slur but… they’re old, ignorant and argumentative.
I’ve not heard them say it in a few year though, so maybe someone got through to them.
I believe it’s called gangsta.
I doubt he’s walking in wearing a fedora and a three piece suit, suspenders and a pocket square, pocket watch, and sleeve garters.
Then again, if he did, that would be pretty fly.
One thing that makes me tired is people trying to defend the use of offensive terms by resorting to etymology. There’s a difference between a word’s origin and its meaning. By the same logic, one could defend the use of the word “nigger” by pointing out that it’s just a different version of the word “negro,” which comes from the Latin word for “black.” All of this is true, but it misses the point. The word means what it means regardless of where it comes from.
You’re pretty fly for a white guy!
Translation for non-Massachusetts people:
“Packie” here is a liquor store, so-called because it’s short for “Packaged Goods Store”, which, elsewhere in the country, is a liquor store. I kid you not. It’s part of the grand yet fading Massachusetts tradition of stubbornly continuing to call stores by their older, often inappropriate names instead of switching to the word commonly used elsewhere. They’ve already lost the war on Milkshakes (which in Massachusetts traditionaly don’t contain ice cream – that’s a “frappe”), and they’re not going to lose more. As far as I know, they didn’t wrap up the liquor in packages, so I don’t know where the term came from.
Don’t go into older Masachusetts towns and visit a “spa” in hopes of a nail treatment or a sauna.
Jesus dude, calm the hell down.
I think we should all communicate by hand-signals and have done with it.
What the hell is a pocket square?
Those little hankies you stick in your breast pocket.
Why?
Patiently waiting for the N-word rule book to come out. When is it ok, why is it ok, who determines what is ok. Will the King and Queen of all Blacks make a final ruling?
What about other insulting names such as cracker, spic, …etc We need the official ruling on those too. Let’s get this figured out once and for all.
A family member of mine is homosexual and is offended by the F word. “Fag” for those who don’t know. He has let it be known he doesn’t like that word. he never says it, nor do any of his peers. It’s a simple rule. Nobody should use that word ever. If that happens, the word fag, used in a derogatory way will eventually fade away. Yay!
Personally, I try to overlook people of an older generation that use words the younger generations find unacceptable. They were raised hearing certain words. Some people adapt, while others don’t.
If it was someone I was around on a regular basis and they used derogatory words constantly, i might gently let them know that nowadays, people may find those words offensive.
If they continue using such words, to each his own. Nothing I can do. Everyone… young, old, fat, thin, white or otherwise don’t live there lives to everyone standards and I’m not going to pop a blood vessel trying to fix it.
Unlike the olden times, grampy!
I actually haven’t heard anyone white say anything particular racist around me…no, wait, years back someone white was talking about Chinese people. I was a coward because it was on the job and the person was my boss. It was something like "This Chinese guy did this to me…can you believe that, they are so rude, they come to this country and blah, blah, blah…
All the time from friends. Whether it’s about throwing around the word “fag”, or saying the N-word, or them objecting to a white girl dating a black guy. “That’s just not right,” is how they start it.
The friends that say “fag” aren’t necessarily bigoted towards gays but they still use “fag” and “faggot” and rationalize the use South Park-style. I tell them how would they feel if someone used “spic” or “wetback” to describe people they disliked. It turns into a big discussion but leeway is made.
Racism towards blacks, that’s another discussion/argument I have with people. I have to break it down WHY it’s wrong, and how hypocritical it is that some dark Mexicans aren’t throwing around the N-word, despite having some black friends. “Do you use that word when you’re around them? Why are you gonna be loud around me but quiet around them?”
Same goes for my Mexican friends who don’t like seeing a black dating a white woman. “Wait a minute…you date white women too!” I say.
“It’s different…it’s just different.”
I don’t get angry at all, but I just think it’s stupid. There racist attitudes aren’t even strong convictions in their own minds, nor do they come from places of real hate. It’s just a lazy response to generalize a group for…I don’t know, just to trash talk I guess. The same reason when people point and say someones fat, or ugly, or a nerd. Maybe to feel good about themselves.
I heard the same thing. “There’s blacks and then there’s n------, just like there’s whites and white trash.” Except “nigger” is a word to demean an entire group of people based on their skin color. It doesn’t denote class or financial status. And again, I ask them if they would be okay with someone using that same kind of logic to differentiate Mexicans. “There’s Mexicans, and then there’s spics.” No, you wouldn’t accept that kind of disrespect.
At first I was on good terms with these people but not really anymore. I get tried of having to explain to them what they should have learned when they were kids. Also, I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who is friendly with racists, so shouldn’t I hold that same standard to myself?
As a construction worker I am often on jobsites with a diverse ethnic background. You can imagine whats written in the portajons. Surprisingly the majority of it is hatred from hispanics towards other hispanics and of course whites chime in too. But apparently the Mexicans, Hondurans and Guatemalens all hate each other with a passion. If I spoke spanish I’d probably know why. Is this still considered racism? Youve got to really hate someone to spend anymore time then necessary in a portajon to write racist comments on the wall especially in the summer in Texas! You also have to understand that the construction site is not your typical workplace environment. Leave your feelings at the door. Offensive language and comments are said all the time.
Mexicans call Salvadoreans “cerrotes” which means turd in english. I too would like to know where the hate comes from. Maybe some Mexican citizens view Salvadoreans the way some American citizens view illegals.