Well? I thought I was sick and perverted, but I don’t know what this means!
Not sure whether I’m happy or sad about that…
Vanilla means “not kinky” or “kinky only in the tiniest degree”. “Kinky” in this context means fetishes, scenes, and such, not necessarily “anything not missionary position heterosexual”. I’m gay and I’m quite vanilla.
jayjay
It can also be a relative term meaning “not nearly as kinky as the folks you happen be with right now.” When I’m with my co-workers, they’re vanilla and I’m the pervert. When I talk with my ex-girlfriend from college, however, I feel more vanilla than a gallon of Baskin-Robbins.
–sublight.
If everything’s relative, why isn’t incest more widely accepted?
I need a good opposite for “vanilla”, and so far the best I’ve managed to come up with is “Neapolitan.”
“Death by Chocolate”?
Maybe “Smurf”.
Rocky Road.
Whipped cream
Aside from all of the witty ice cream references given so far, most of the “opposite” terms for the BDSM term “vanilla” simply refer to ourselves: Doms/Dommes, subs, etc. I don’t think there’s a single noun that describes someone into BDSM or D/s.
This reply, of course, presumes that you weren’t also trying to be flavourful…
Now, how’s that for a double entendre?
I always quite likes “KAFfy” (pronounced in a v. american way - cf: coffee). For “Kinky As F**k - y”.
Fran
That’s more or less what I thought it must mean… but I had never run across it until the other night when I was surfing po… uh, educational materials.
I guess I must be more “vanilla” than I thought; there’s some really sick stuff out there if you just take the time to dig it up!
Vanilla is defined, within the BDSM lifestyle - as anyone who does not engage in or prefer sexual BDSM practices. Or people who prefer Plain Sex
It doesn’t matter your degree of kink… the type of kink… or the frequency of recurring kink - it simply seperates Lifestylers, from those who have no role or interest in the sexual aspects of the BDSM lifestyle.
I suppose the most severe opposite of Vanilla Icecream, would be … hmmm -
Leather Flogger Dough?
PVC Vinyl Chip?
Cat-O-Nine Tails Crunch?
Neck Shackle Sorbet?
Matt - Butter Brickle.
try to do a name search on myself, and what do I find?..