Seriously. For generations it’s been super taboo for a woman to seek out a prostitute for sex, and he thinks we should just overthrow that in a century. Plus, men can’t get pregnant, a fear women always have.
Even nowadays, if a man goes to a prostitute once or twice in his life, he is not automatically reviled by everyone. People may think he’s a bit of a loser, or maybe it was Vegas, or something. If a woman went to a prostitute…I can’t even imagine what people would say about her. No one would understand it.
More women who like sex will respond to a thread like this I think. With a group of girlfriends, maybe six or seven, we discussed how many times we wanted it. The consensus was two to three times. I was surprised until it emerged the others were talking about per week rather than per day. :smack:
It stands to reason that the amount of sex would be much higher in an ideal scenario than in any scenario likely to occur in real life.
At a minimum, my ideal scenario makes me a superhuman Don Juan with a woman who is a perfect match for me in every way, and no stresses like money or long working hours to get in the way. So, 3-6 times a day.
Female, 30s, once a day, and maybe once a month we have a weekend where we basically don’t come up for air. We’re talking ideal, of course. The realities of life usually conspire to make sure it doesn’t happen more than 4 or 5 times a week.
I did manage to burn myself out on sex, once. We were at a pace of 2 to 3 times a day, every day, for about a month or a little more. It was great for the first few weeks. The last week or so kind of made me tired. We scaled back a little (more around once a day) and things were fine.
Male, 44. Maximum once a day normally, though at other times three or four times a day. And there was this one girl about three years ago… just being in her presence was enough to want it ALL the time.
I have an inconsistent, circumstantial libido I guess.
About 4 or 5 times a week. With life getting in the way we may go a couple days then make up for it. We have a three day rule: after three days of being too busy or tired, we make it a point to make time for it. We’ve failed the rule a couple times, but being able to joke we were violating the rule let each other know we were still close and hot for each other, just completely dead ass tired and in the middle if work projects. It was a way of saying “I haven’t forgotten you”
But most of the time we don’t make three days…
ETA - that is my real life, but I consider my real life situation pretty ideal.
Woman 44 years old here. Sex isn’t a priority for everyone. Me, priorities ranking just as high or higher then sex are a pleasant clean home and rest/leisure time. I had great sex yesterday, but once a week or once every two weeks is fine with me.
The first two years of a relationship are very intense, sex wise. A sexuologist I took a class from mentioned the “jar of beans” -theory. Here is the therory:
This thread reminds me of an old article that coined the term “Going to Tukwila”. A newlywed couple who later in the year nearly got sex on par with food - three times a day plus snacks.
So you’ve never wanted to orgasm more than once a day? Were you never a teenager? Or indulge in a marathon session?
Normal orgasms are never painful, even if you’re shooting up dust. Three times a day would be great IMO, but I’m still in my 20s and relatively fit. If “ideally” means no work, no stress, and a variety of eager partners I could see going to 4 or maybe 5, although after three to six months of that I may be a dessicated shell of a man or in a coma. I’d be willing to take that risk though.
As for gender differences in sexual drive (warning: pdf) they’re pretty self evident I think. And that’s ignoring the large segment of women suffering (or not, from their POV) from anorgasmia. How often would the penny jar test fail against a healthy man?
Sucks to be you, I guess. Until my mid-40s, my recovery period was roughly half an hour. It isn’t anywhere near that anymore, but age eventually catches up with you.
Back during my single days, I once beat off 10 times in a day, just to see if I could do it. The only hard part was staying on task, so to speak - after the first four or five orgasms, I’d had more than enough from an emotional standpoint, and was ready to go do something else with my day. I was hardly up against any physical limitations; I’m sure I could have had several more orgasms that day with the proper incentives, like a couple of attractive naked women cheering me on and handing me a $100 bill after each orgasm.
