Hi
So lately i have been getting butterflys in my tummy when i see my manager or he touches ne in any way…
I jever had a thing for him in past 2 years and bow suddenly i am head over heels for him… it started out coz f him… he started looking at me … and then he touched and rubbed my back daily by some or the other reason… then he started to check me out from head to toe not in some creepy way …but he had dis intense look in his eyes…which made me skip a beat… den he started noticing change in my behaviour as i became more confused and worried about all dis… i suddenly became more aware of his presence i became quieter and more lost in my thoughts … i tried avoiding him… and den he started hitting ke with his questions what happened to u… y r u so lost… wts bothering u… i replied nothing to all f his questions so he said dats hes hundred percent sure ders something in my mind… and whenevr he asked all dis he gave me a strange look and smile almost as if he was dazed… n dat made my heart beat more faster… this went on for few weeks and then one day he told me to tell him wts wrng odrwise he will take a one to one meet with me… n that day i told him dat ders nthn i cn tell hm coz i myself m confused and i told hm dat all i want is for him to b safe coz a few days back he had an accident and that oeft me way tooo scared… post dat he still looks at me all d tym n he still touches my back which i am in love with now… the way his hand feels is nthn i cn describe but i dont react and now i want to know how can i avoid him n get this feeling out of me… coz afterall hes my manager and i dnt wnt to mess things up… ****hes single and i am single hes jus 5 years elder to me…but still i dnt wnt this coz if it turned out that he dosent loves me i will b damn hurt… so mite as well i avoid him… helppppp :smack:
I’ve often wondered; is it more actually easier to type like this than to make even a halfhearted attempt to sound lucid and not 10 years old? Because I’d have a hell of a time figuring out/keeping track of what nonsensical thing I needed to type instead of an actual word that might get my point across to anyone above a preschool reading level.
Your company likely has policies against managers and employees getting together. What he’s doing can get him in serious hot water, and if other employees notice can get both of you fired. Quit your job and hook up with him, or tell him to stop being inappropriate.
Welcome to the SDMB, Inf3rno. Since you’re looking for advice, I’m moving your thread to IMHO, our advice and opinions forum.
Enjoy your stay here.
twickster, MPSIMS moderator
15 years old is very young to be in management.
I have to echo the sentiments expressed so far. (And I’m perhaps naively taking it on faith that your post is legit and not a gag.)
No one wants to make light of your situation, and many here would be very willing to offer help and advice. But first you have to learn to express yourself like an adult. As it is, few will be motivated to wend their way through your dense, purposefully misspelled minefield of a post.
Do you honestly not know how to write the English language, or do you imagine you’re being cute and clever by writing this way?
Whatever, it doesn’t work. Learn to spell, and also how to create paragraphs.
At least the letters to Dear Abby are edited for clarity.
You should get an extra coffee mug for figuring that out.
I’m just going to go out on a limb here and predict that she works in a restaurant.
Would you like fries with that?
We get it. She clearly types like she’s very young or possibly uneducated.
If she happens to be legitimate, I’m glad to see the welcoming committee out in full force.
:rolleyes:
Okay, I’ll take this seriously.
Inf3rno, what you’ve described doesn’t really sound like love. From what you’ve said, you’re just physically attracted to the man. And you recognize there would be difficulties in dating your manager, which is probably true.
I’m assuming you’re pretty young. My recommendation is you get together with some friends and go out to some places. Work on expanding your social life and meeting people. You can find some guy you like and have a relationship that’s separate from your job.
Proximity can feel like attraction sometimes. Also, many young, uneducted women do not have a strong father figure in their life, and so they gravitate towards men who have authority over them.
Go out and do something by yourself or with other friends. This can help you stop obsessing and projecting onto your boss.
There’s jever a better time than bow.
By the way, don’t take casual flings so seriously. It’s only sex = fun, and you’re unattached consenting adults. Do it (carefully) and move on with your life.
Intentionally typing “dis”,“dat”, and “ders” is not acceptable per the ground rules we’ve set as a community to facilitate communication.
We also tend to expect posters to have explore the site a little before posting in order to get a sense of what is expected.
Failure to act on these principles usually gets some bad jokes and finger-pointing. If those who can’t correct therefore feel unwelcome, that is kind of the point.
True dat.
Oh wait…
Maybe Wendy’s is hiring.
Regards,
Shodan
I really think it is more like TGI Friday’s. You know, creepy 22 year old manager giving backrubs to the 17 year old hostess after the Saturday lunch rush.
The words “Chili’s” or “Buffalo Wild Wings” might actually appear in the OP, but it’s just so hard to read.
Worrying about losing your job over this is overblown. You can both get new jobs at another restaurant when you get fired. You’re young, he’s young, you’re unattached, he’s unattached. Your shitty job is just a shitty job, so go for it. What’s the worst that could happen, besides a broken heart or humiliating workplace meltdown? Or, you know, an unplanned pregnancy or horrible STI. So yeah.
He’s inappropriate for touching you at work. But it makes sense this might inspire some attraction to him in you. Also, while there may be official policies, this type of stuff happens every day everywhere so I’m sure you could get away with it. You say you want out but we all know how exciting it feels to be overwhelmed by a crush or lust for someone.
What do you really want?
I think you should have sex with him and marry him, I didn’t read enough of your post to see if either of you were married, and then both of you can run the company together naked
I look forward to the Penthouse Forum version of this OP.