I’m wondering…
If a man is cheating, is the mistress usually prettier than the wife? What if the sexes were inverted or otherwise changed?
Or is there no meaningful difference when you average them out?
So, maybe you can help me find out. In your experience, what’s the ratio?
In my experience, no. The rather significant number of guys that I know that cheat gravitate towards a particular kind of woman. They are almost always flirty and cater well to his ego. I can’t really think of any that were prettier than the wife although I am sure that it happens. Some guys cheat in volume so the easy to target women get a lot of attention.
Who else is thinking Jude Law cheating on Sienna Miller with that horrible, horrible woman? Was it Jude Law?
It seems to me that a lot of cheating episodes aren’t exactly the result of someone hunting down a partner, but that an opportunity presents itself.
Then again, I was in a situation where I was the one the guy was cheating on his girlfriend with, having pursued me especially, and I am definitely more attractive than she was.
So… I guess I would draw the distinction between whether the man is LOOKING to cheat (in which case, why NOT hunt down a pretty girl?) or simply falling into the situation and not stopping himself.
Hugh Grant.
Enough said?
I’ve never cheated but about my fourth year into my marriage to my ex-wife; I found myself mildly lusting after women that were nowhere near as attractive as my wife.
I guess it’s that whole primal instinct kicking in. [shrugs]
I’m pretty sure the person that the SO cheats with is the person that is distinctly different in either appearance or sexual appetite from the current SO. Or else why cheat?
So yes. The person is either prettier or more open to the sexual proclivity of the cheater.
For the record I’ve never cheated on an SO.
Well, the studies on cheating (too tired to look them up - somebody else will, I’m sure) generally show that cheating isn’t about sex. It’s about getting some need met. I suppose the guys who chase the ‘flirty’ types need to feel more masculine or something but it’s often deeper issues that lead to cheating.
I think it’s kind of sad how many people seem to think that relationships are all about appearance and that people can barely think beyond their groins.
I know several cases of women who were a certain way, twisted themselved into husband-designed pretzels for years of marriage… then got discarded in favor of women who were very much like the wife’s old self. One of those cases is on wife number three and she’s already doing the pretzels part.
Sometimes it’s a matter of wanting to have the cake and eat it.
I’m sure I recall a movie in which the wife bumps into her estranged husband with his lover on his arm. She looks at her in dismay and says, “You’re sticking your cock in that?”
Any idea what the movie was? I have never been able to find it since.
Given that Prince Charles dumped Diana for that shabby & rumpled creature he lives with, there cannot be any possible connection.
The fact that they are living together wrecked my theory. I was sure that she was really John Cleese (just look at her) and the whole thing some elaborate gag.
Actually, Bill Maher said a little more: “He had Elizabeth Hurley at home, but he wanted Marvin Hagler in a wig.”
my ex cheated constantly, and none of them were prettier. His only prerequisite (as far as I know) was a pulse.
Pea, bean, lentil?
I used to work with a very beautiful and obviously sexual girl she had a boyfriend that would literally screw ANYTHING. It was totally baffling when he had a good looking girl at home that’d do anything he wanted he’d nail any skank that crossed his path. Once I saw one of the girls he had cheated on his main more then once with and she was just an ugly bar whore that I wouldn’t screw if someone paid me.
In my own experience my girlfriend of four years went back to her ex who was a fat greasy drug addict ex-con. It really shook my confidence for a long time “She left me for THAT? What does that say about ME?” until I came to the conclusion that he worshiped the ground she walked on and was totally willing to be her doormat where I kinda required a little more give and take in a relationship.
So just from what I’ve seen I’d say cheaters cheat for their own reasons and looks have very little to do with it.
In my dad’s case, no. My mom has always been quite the hottie (and still is at 62). It was definitely a case of him needing his ego to be stroked. His new wife is definitely not a looker and isn’t very smart to boot. (Nice enough, but I can only handle her in small doses.) My nickname for them is Charles and Camilla.