My sister’s boyfriend is Jewish. She is Catholic. Niether is very practicing in their religion. They have been together for almost two years now and the religion issue has never been a problem… except for his mother. She wants her boy to marry a nice Jewish girl, and so she does everything she can to make my sister’s life difficult.
The boyfriend has tried to bring my sister to family dinners, and she has either been “uninvited” by his mother, or subtly insulted at the table. My sister is trying very hard to be accepted - she’s always respectful to the family, and does things like bring gifts to supper, but the mother always finds fault with the gifts, and with her.
This afternoon, there was a memorial service for the boyfriend’s grandfather, who died last year. The service was at synagogue. My sister wanted to be there for her boyfriend, naturally, and so she dressed up, and left work early to attend the service. When the mother saw her there, she made a scene. A HUGE scene. A “who does she think she is, you’re not bringing her in here, she doesn’t belong here” scene. People on the street were stopping to see what the yelling was about.
My sister ended up leaving - her boyfriend was so mad he was going to leave too, but my sis went up to him and his mom and said “Look, this isn’t about religion, or about me, or about your mom. It’s about your grandfather, and he’d want you to be here. I’ll be at home, I’ll see you tonight.” And then she called us in tears.
I think it’s sick the way my sister was treated and I’m very very upset. Like she said, it’s not about religion - it’s about respect. Is there a rule that non-Jews aren’t allowed into a synagogue? I’ve never seen such intolerance, such disrespect, in anyone before. I don’t think that any of my Jewish friends would have a problem taking me to synagogue, if I was curious about it… so what’s her problem?