Well, as a fat woman I can only tell you about my personal experiences.
I am smart enough to know how birth control works so I have never had to make a decision about abortion one way or the other. Were I to get pregnant despite the precautions I take I would probably think long and hard about the abortion option simply because I don’t like children and don’t consider myself to be maternal at all. I wouldn’t want to bring a child into the world. My weight doesn’t enter into the decision except that sometimes for really heavy women pregnancy can be dangerous, causing gestational diabetes, hypertension, and other problems. I would probably take that into consideration. It certianly would NEVER be about whether or not it would prove to someone that I got laid once. If I wanted to do that, I would just videotape my next sexual encounter and not have to pay for/feed/clothe/parent a child for the next 18 years.
And I feel no need to justify to anyone how much sex I have had in my life. If I meet someone and I feel that I like and trust them, sex may become an option. I certianly don’t screw every guy I meet or go for years without getting any. If someone is so judgemental that they would look at me and assume no one would want to sleep with me all that means is that said person is a jerk and not someone I would have ever considered having sex with anyway.
Also, how does this survey work for women like me, who are fat but are gorgeous? How does it work for thin women who are really unattractive? Or is weight the only way you determine if someone is attractive or not?
I work OB/GYN at the 2nd busiest birthing unit in California and I’ve met a lot of females, pretty/not who have babies because they did not want to admit to them selves that they were pregnant. Deliveries are much more common than abortions. I have delivered some very very very unattractive women of their babies, many more than very very very attractive women. Anecdotally, this could lead one to believe that unattractive women have more sex than atractive women, but anecdote does not equal data.
Cyn, OB/GYN RN, pretty and kind of fat G3P2SAB1
You know what? I overthink things way too much, and I’m sure you didn’t mean anything by what you said, and even if you did, I’ve spent all day taking things ultra-personally and being ridiculously oversensitive and…crud… Anyway, forget I even mentioned it. Sorry.
I am kinda getting the fat=ugly/thin=attractive vibe here, myself.
Even so, I can’t say I have ever come in contact with anyone who felt the need to prove that they were once sexually attractive to someone by having a baby. That’s simply a ridiculous assumption to make about more than a very tiny percentage of the female population. I have to assume that someone, sometime has felt that way, and made a stupid decision accordingly, but by no means is that the normal attitude of overweight or unattractive women.
There are thousands of thin women who are dog-ugly, and thousands of large women who are drop-dead gorgeous. To go with them, there are thousands of men who actually find that there’s more to attractiveness than looks. Heck - there are even men who prefer big girls, or unique looks! Shocking, I know. Maybe pool has overstated things a bit, but I believe that if a woman isn’t getting laid it has more to do with her own attitude and perception of herself than the way she’s perceived by men.
Reckless behavior such as has been described by the OP cannot be applied to any majority. In either situation, it comes down to the choice of the individual to have a child or not, and though many women end up with children or have abortions for the wrong reasons*, there’s no correlation between relative attractiveness and their choices.
*FTR, I am a moderately overweight yet pretty woman. I had an abortion at age 15 because a) I was young and stupid, b) my mom said “abortion or you’re on the street” and my boyfriend said “if you have a baby I am going to kill myself”, and c) it was the best thing I could have done for my future at the time. No regrets, but the circumstances were well, crappy.