It shouldn’t be hard for any man to get a date, no matter what he looks like.
(Money isn’t so much a factor as people say–poor guys can go out with poor gals, and I’ve heard of plenty of dates on the bus.)
In my ignorant male opinion, most American women like being treated nice and taken out for a good time. And yet, ironically, most American women will say “no” to a request for a date. I think there are two main reasons:
They think the guy might be unpleasant to be with.
They are afraid the guy might expect something sexually.
The “sexual expectations” problem is very important. My friend told me that in Mexico City he had no problem getting dates. When he asked a young lady out, the most common response was “What time?”
(My friend is not conventionally handsome; he’s kind of a beanpole, and kinda poor to boot.)
I think the sexual expectations make all the difference. Someone can correct me if I’m wrong, but I think there is less premarital sex south of the border, and therefore less fear that the beau will “try something” or expect a payoff.
Ironically, I think this country’s sexual revolution has led to a decline in the dating scene. Women decline dates more often than in previous decades, and fewer guys are willing to keep getting rejected all the time, so nobody goes out.
One solution would be for women to ask men out, or at least give them a very clear “green light,” but even in 2001 most women don’t want to make the first move.
(In all my life, the only women I have ever known who were willing to initiate things this way were…strippers!)
So we’re stuck, halfway between a sexual revolution and a social revolution. And that’s why dating sucks here.