Tastes do change- Until two years ago, I was put off my the smell & even the idea of deviled eggs. Now I love ‘em & even invented a deviled-quiche recipe’.
To me, it’s in the attitude & timing of the offer.
When someone repeatedly insists that I eat a food I’ve just told them I don’t like, I lie.
I tell them that I actually love that food, but I don’t eat it because every time I do I immediately get a terrible case of loud and much-more-stinky-than-usual gas.
Then I say, “But if you insist…”
As I non-drinking vegetarian, I say its the worst type of rude. Once I tell you I do’t drink alcohol or eat meat, do not be pushing it at me, trying to get me to consume it, or ask me why.
As Peg Bracken put it: A guest might decline your offer of a drink (and I’ll add of food) for any number of reasons. The reason doesn’t have to be explained to anyone, including you.
I’m gonna need that deviled quiche recipe. I’m the person who can eat the entire plate of deviled eggs.
Well I personally dont think that repeatedly offering food to someone that you know they loathe is in the least bit rude.
I mean you could offer Bacon and Eggs to Muslims and Jews and I dont think for one moment that they would be in the least way offended.
Lets face it you never know when someone is going to have a crisis of faith and lose said faith.
Perhaps afterwards you could punch them in the face a couple of times and then steal the money in their wallets.
I’m sure that they would have a good laugh about it afterwards,I know I would.
If there is time between the events, its rude not to offer. People get to make the choice to eat or not eat something. Vegetarians occasionally become meat eaters. People discover that the beets they hated as a kid taste good.
That doesn’t mean someone should push - but we’ve had this conversation before - and there is a cultural element to it - some people refuse once out of “politeness” but will accept on the second time - therefore people for whom this is a cultural norm will ask - about three times. They aren’t intending to be rude, they are intending to be sure you aren’t saying “no” out of the whole “don’t want to be a bother” thing.
Heck, my own *parents *can’t seem to grasp that I’m not just **picky **about seafood, I’m allergic. Pretty much every time we eat out, they’ll pick a prawn or whatever off their plate and offer it to me.
I’ve taken to just giving them the :dubious: look, and saying “No thanks, I’m still enjoying being alive.”
They’ve had near to 20 years to come to grips with this rather important little fact - and yet, it happens every single time we’re anywhere that one of them is eating seafood. I realise it’s just their share-and-care attitude operating on autopilot, but it is slightly annoying.
Recipe needs to be provided=)
Sort of like in cat threads, you have to post the picture of said moggy, in food threads we need recipes=)
OK- the measurements are to taste, and btw, this is a microwaved quiche, so here goes-
Coat the bottom of the dish with butter/margarine/non-stick spray.
Line bottom with crushed cheese crackers & melted butter/marg to serve as the crust.
Whip eggs, either w/ or w/o milk, depending on lightness you want. Decide on amount of eggs by size of dish. Whip in either yellow or brown mustard to taste. (I’d recommend against honey mustard, but that’s just me). Add pickle relish (I prefer dill, but I guess sweet would work) to taste. Add salt, pepper, paprika to taste.
If desired, you may also toss in already-cooked ground sausage, or slices of link sausage or hot dogs. You may also wish to top it with shredded cheese &/or crushed cheese crackers.
Cook in microwave oven until you egg mixture is solid througout. Ten minutes should be enough for a 2-qt dish.
I don’t know. I think in some cases it may be a cultural thing.
I’ve been friends with an old Hispanic lady since I was a 15yo kid. She prides herself on her food and gets a big kick out of watching me (and her other loved ones) eat her home cooking. She does this to me constantly, but I’ve never sensed an ounce of rudeness from her; only love.
Ironically enough, because of her constant “badgering” I will now eat: onions, bell peppers, liver and lots of other stuff. She would try all different kinds of ways to cook the stuff I supposedly didn’t like until I found at least one way palatable. From there I just acquired a genuine taste for them. (I would eat the stuff because she’s such a sweet lady, I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.)
I’m actually glad she did that because thanks to her; I get to enjoy lots more foods.
I hear “Old Italian Ladies” have the same proclivity as well.
Sounds really nummy
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However, I make an exeption for someone who has a long “I don’t like” list.
Yes, in my book, it’s considerate to avoid offering guests food you know they dont like.
I give up trying to please those people with “I dont like it” lists… I opt for “good, then more for me!” with them.
But when Im the guest, my rule for myself is that it’s arrogant not to accept, with a thank you, anything that’s offered to me (unless I know it will make me break out in hives or throw up) Whether I actually eat it or not is my own business.
Sometimes I think it’s an ego thing at play–You don’t like tuna? Well, everybody loves my tuna caserole.
I once had a coworker go so far as to tell me her noodle dish didn’t have any meat in it. I took one bite and spit it out. “There’s shellfish in this.” Her reply was “Oh, you can’t taste the little bit of crab in it.”
Good thing I’m not violently allergic to crab.
I’ve been known to do something like that to my brother the picky eater, but always in the following fashion:
- it’s only the two of us,
- I suggest that he try something which he hasn’t tried before and may have refused to try before (not something that I know he’s declared he doesn’t like in the last 5 years),
- but if he doesn’t want it, there are other options being offered at the same time.
So far it’s led to him widening his “will eat” list to about twice the original size. If it didn’t happen to, you know, actually work, I wouldn’t do it. I find it incredibly rude. When the thing being “offered” and refused is alcohol or something which the refuser has made clear is not a matter of taste but allergies or religion, it’s rude, dangerous and Pitworthy.
My mother’s own version is “… but you alway liked/ate…”
“and on Monday, leeks.”
“Mom, I hate leeks.”
“But you always ate your leeks!”
“Mom, I haven’t eaten leeks for years. Next you’re going to tell me Lilbro likes leeks. I don’t like leeks, SiL doesn’t like leeks, Middlebro doesn’t like leeks, Lilbro doesn’t like leeks, Dad didn’t like leeks and you can’t swallow leeks unless they’re drowned in white sauce, so why do you want to buy leeks and not some other green that we actually do like, pray tell?”
Rude, and weird.
If that person changes their mind about the food they don’t like, they can ask you for it.
It would also be rude to make a big to-do about how they used to not like tuna but now they’re eating it. If your aunt suddenly asks for tuna, just give it to her exactly like you would give it to anyone else.
If the person is not your child and is not under 18, hiding the food they don’t like in a casserole or something, or giving them tuna and telling them it’s (say) swordfish, is also rude. Adults get to decide for themselves what they will and will not eat. It’s also possibly attempted murder to give someone a food they won’t eat without telling them, if they are allergic to the food in question.
That’s not rude. Now, if they pushed the issue when you do decline the shrimp, that would be another story.
Do you know that your Muslim colleague keeps halal to the level of strictness where she wouldn’t eat cookies baked in a non-halal kitchen? Not everyone who keeps kosher is that strict (I assume something similar applies in the case of halal). If you don’t know that, go ahead and offer. If she does keep halal, she’s dealt with this issue before. She’ll ask you what she needs to know to keep halal to the level of strictness that she does. Unless she’s fresh off the boat from Saudi Arabia, she’s quite used to doing this, and it won’t bother her.
I keep kosher, but I’d be willing to eat cookies that were baked in a non-kosher kitchen, as long as they didn’t contain lard or anything else non-kosher. If you offered me cookies, I’d ask you if they had lard or beef fat or anything like that in them. If you said no, I’d be OK with eating them.
Offering isn’t necessarily impolite… as far as I’m concerned, you don’t really cross into rude territory until you’re either insisting or lying about the contents to trick someone into eating a disliked food.*
When it comes to religious or dietary restrictions, I’ll usually offer whatever it is to the person, though I’ll preface it with a warning that it isn’t kosher/halaal/vegetarian/whatever. It leaves the door open for them to accept if it’s still within the bounds of their beliefs, or to refuse if it’s not.
- If they’re over the age of 10, that is. I’m all for lying through your teeth to get a picky child to eat their vegetables if that’s what it takes.
I agree, with the caveat that that applies only to your own child, or to a child whose parent has given you permission to do this. Parents are likely to know if a child’s refusal to eat a food is just pickiness or something like allergies or religious restrictions.
Ahh, sorry - I didn’t adequately divorce myself from the ‘rude’ rule in the OP. No, it’s **not **rude. They’re only trying to share the food that they enjoy, and once I’ve declined it they rarely push the issue.
(Now, alcohol, on the other hand? That I can and will take exception to: if I’ve said I don’t want a drink, then I don’t want a fucking drink and I wish they wouldn’t try and guilt-trip me into drinking just because everyone else is. But I’m just narky about that because they’ve spent the last two days on my back about it. I don’t know how many times I’ve had to explain (to the same people, over and over) in the past 48 hours - that my body does not like alcohol, and I have no desire to spend my day with explosive diarrhoea just so I can ‘fit in’. No. Thank. You.)
The shellfish thing isn’t *rude *- however it is kind of dangerous, and (as I said) annoying, and I’d really think that with only 2 children my parents could possibly remember that one of them gets all gaspy for air if you go and poison her with shellfish.
They’ve also tried to feed me seafood at their home (“We bought a platter of prawns for Christmas dinner!”) but there’s no way to really mention stuff like that on a message board (or in conversation) without having people say “… are you *sure *they’re offering it out of loving generousity? :dubious:”, so I tend to leave these things out of fly-by posts. 
See, what I always did was not even “offer” so much as say, “Oh, hey-I brought cookies/cake/pie/whatever, I left some in the backroom/on the table-help yourselves.” That way, people can decide if they want some or not.
I am not a peanut butter fan. I mean, ok, I like it, but it’s not my main food group or anything.
One of my best friends will die if I feed her peanuts.
And, yet, every time I drive her someplace, I’ll make a quick stop ‘n’ rob stop (gas, can of pop, snacks); she’ll sit in the car while I do my thang; and I’ll bring her a snack. Because I’m nice like that.
The first time I brought her a peanut butter chocolate chip cookie. I haven’t gotten any better over the years.
The only thing I can figure is that the entire time I’m in the store I’m thinking “peanuts bad peanuts bad peanuts bad peanuts peanuts peanuts OOOOOH, REESES!”.
/me hangs head in shame