I go into the break room, where a “pitch in” (i.e. everybody brought something for everybody to eat) is wrapping up. I didn’t bring anything because it was during a class I was teaching. Furthermore, I brought a bowl of udon noodles. I was actually really looking forward to eating the udon. Granted, it’s just cheap microwave fake stuff but it was a reminder of my year in Japan, and I was genuinely looking forward to it.
One of the participants insists I should “grab a plate, there’s food left.”
“It’s okay, I didn’t bring anything, I’ve got this food here in my hands, I’m fine.”…
“Oh no go on, there’s plenty left.”
“Oh you know, honestly, I already stole a couple of cookies earlier so I’m good…” (I didn’t actually…)
“Oh please, just go on and grab you some plate.”
“You know, I appreciate it but I was actually really looking forward to eating this…”
“Oh no don’t you just eat that microwave food, it’ll keep. Get you some wings!”
I finally said Okay at this point but I think I probably looked angry.*
So was I rude for refusing in the first place or was she rude for insisting?
I should have just taken the offer, right?
*Not just because of this incident, though–I’m already just in a generally shitty mood near to the point of ragequitting everything.