I am an Engineer, my wife is FNP, very NICE lady, all her coworkers, patients love her for being NICE and she’s the best at what she does professionally. If you google the term ‘nice’, you will probably see her smiling face.
Apart from that, it really hurts to say, as a wife/mother/family woman she SUCKS. Totally disorganized person at home, lazy,no cooking skills(inherited from mom), won’t clean up after herself, zero common sense(likes to pickup hitchhikers on rainy nights claiming they are poor homeless people who needs to be helped - advised about the consequences of such actions to no avail) and so on. Pretty much exhibits I know everything attitude. Blame others on everything except herself. Lately the little one started picking up these traits and got into trouble at school for arguing/talking back to teachers. Eventually the blame falls on me as usual.
I am seriously concerned about our future and wondering if it’s even worth living/communicating with such a person or just accept the fact this is who she is and move on. Currently I help the kid with his homework and other school stuff as she don’t really care about it and his grades were falling. I worry about his future if I walk away from this relationship and that’s the only reason that pulls me back.
We sleep separate for the past 2 years(started as convenience during on-call nights)and now used to it. So no real attachment, no sex involved, just living under same roof for the child.
Should I sacrifice my life and stay back dealing with this situation or move on and let my son sacrifice his future living with this I know it all NICE lady? That’s the one and only quality she has, BE NICE TO OTHERS. Everything else goes down hill and it’s always my fault.
Obviously it takes more than BE NICE to run a family and she doesn’t get it.
I am not expecting an Einstein out of her but there are some characteristics that guys expect from their spouses. Being dumb is ok as long as you take care of the home and family. But being dumb/incompetent and an attitude that comes from having a high paying job is not really exciting. :smack: