Just make sure if you have any kids, do NOT take them with you when you go to meet his family in his home country. You’ll have a hell of a time taking them back with you when you come back to the states.
But it will make a great Lifetime movie. Starring Sally Field.
No kids - thanks for the input though!
tl;dr.
Yes.
Then your post has no place in this thread.
I’m glad to hear that. I wish you all the best.
I apologize. That was thoughtless of me.
In the current climate it seems the ICE might be interested in his whereabouts. At this point your main interest is to get something, anything, between him and you so he stops influencing you. They might be able to help.
That’s meant as a serious helpful suggestion, not as a jerky comeback. You’re being set up to have further crimes committed against you by this guy. You need all the defensive help you can muster.
I am twitchy about the whole financial issue as well, buying him everything he needs but having to live apart because you can’t afford to live together?! Honeykin, major flag toss here. You tell your mom, and both of you move back in with her, or you craigslist for a bedroom in a shared house. A major down check in the whole green card process to me would be married and not living together.
Though honestly, he has jealousy and control issues I would be hesitant to accept in a boyfriend/spouse.
It sounds like your husband is controlling of you, he cutting you off from people ‘with brown eyes’ once he see he can to this to you he’ll cut you off from other people . I have a very bad feeling about your marriage and feel you should get out of it before it too late. Pleases don’t feel like you’re an idiot this just how your husband want you to feel so he can made you have self doubts about yourself . I am happy to see you’re going to see a family lawyer , I just saw this . Does your husband know where you’re staying ,I hope not.
Yes, he knows I’m back at home with my parents. He’s been recently pushing me to tell them about our marriage. I’ve been hesitant to do this…
We also hired an immigration lawyer months ago and have already paid the retainer fee on a credit card. He’s been keeping the lawyer up to date and has even informed him of my move…I’m wondering if I could just ask the lawyer to prep divorce papers instead of filing our case? I have a feeling it’s not that simple either…
OK, now you have a problem.
Even assuming this guy isn’t using you, if he’s here illegally, you’re not going to be able to file for a visa and permanent resident status for him.
I’m not a lawyer. I’ve been through this process, though – I’m married to an immigrant. One thing I can tell you is that you should absolutely, definitely talk to an immigration lawyer about your situation. There are a lot of red flags here, but the biggest one is that he may be here illegally right now.
If you want to talk to a lawyer about divorce, you should talk to a lawyer who represents you, and not your husband, and not you and your husband. In a divorce proceeding, you and your soon-to-be-ex-husband will not have the same interests, and a lawyer who’s been representing both of you in the immigration process won’t be able to represent you as zealously as he/she should. Actually, it’s even worse – I guess the immigration lawyer would be your husband’s lawyer, not yours.
Come ON? You are seriously seeking advice? With everything you’ve written in your OP, I would have been on my skates months ago.
You’re 26, not 16, and you’ve been through a sham marriage before? Gimme a break babe.
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He’s screwed. We have a friend from Hong Kong who overstayed hers. She had to go back to apply again. She is here now and legal, but it took years, She knew everyone at the INS office and knew who to ask for each question so the answer would be to here liking.
And that was pre-Trump. And she was not from an Islamic country. Tell him to get his ass home and do things legally. And then move with no forwarding address.
Immigration law is federal, divorce law is state. It is possible that your immigration lawyer can’t help you with a divorce, and in any case he would not be an expert.
It’s good to hear this. It’s so difficult to retain sufficient objectivity when you’re right in the moment. It struck me as significant the word ‘love’ doesn’t appear anywhere in this thread, not even your OP.
Despite the immediacy of everything you sound pretty strong and clear thinking but I also wonder if he found and has exploited an emotional vulnerability, which of course we all have.
You’re only 26, you don’t appear to have children, you see to have a caring family, you’re pretty smart. On the little we know, I’d be inclined to think you’ve been unwittingly exploited and it’s time now to put things right. At some point you have to share this experience with your family. That might be easier once you’ve set a course of action.
Good luck.
Not if he entered the U.S. legally, on a visa, even if he has overstayed it. But there are a ton of red flags here, for green card purposes and otherwise. I’d be more worried about the other stuff - isolating you from your friends, not wanting you to know what he’s doing, etc.
Eva Luna, Immigration Paralegal
Any reputable immigration lawyer who is representing you and your husband in a marriage-based immigration case will not be able to represent either of you in a divorce case - it’s a conflict of interest. (Unless your husband waives the conflict, which is something I’m not even sure is possible in all states.)
And BTW a lawyer licensed in any U.S. state can practice immigration law because it’s Federal. But you might not want them to - immigration law is messy and full of twists and turns, so you want someone who specializes in it.
Too late to edit my post, but I should add that this applies assuming a couple of things:
a.) you are a U.S. citizen; and
b) he doesn’t have other negative immigration history, such as a prior deportation, determination of marriage fraud, etc.
Just the fact he cant hold a job good enough to pay his own way is enough of a red flag whether immigrant or not. You should not have to subsidize him.