She calls 'em as she sees 'em
I guess I haven’t paid enough attention in the past to the stories and habits of The Great Pussy Marauder (a.k.a. Shagnasty).
And now I feel like I need a shower.
Except that he does not want a committed relationship and he’s not upfront with the women about that. So, he’s in the right demographic for the first date and not for subsequent ones. Hence another reason he gets ghosted.
There have been some new developments. It turns out that I wasn’t ghosted at all. The Long Island girl that I was seeing lost her grandfather suddenly this week and had to fly to Florida on short notice for the funeral and her phone broke on the way. She called me last night and we are going out again when she gets back next weekend. She isn’t my girlfriend but she is getting close and has the right material I think.
I made a bad assumption before I found out what happened so I started talking to the gorgeous Russian poker player. Not 15 minutes after I got off the phone with the Long Island girl, Oxana asked me out too. I am really tempted to go just to keep up international relations but I also want to keep the drama and conflict of interests to a minimum.
My problem isn’t the way I treat women. I always treat them extremely well. It is the frenetic switching because the choices are endless and ever-changing. I really do want a real relationship but I also want the ultimate sampler platter. That creates a conflict.
No, you don’t. I don’t care what a gentleman you are to their faces. You do not treat women well. This is self-delusion. In fact, I see a lot of rationalization for your behavior throughout these threads, because you help the needy and are kind to strangers, that cancels out your near-sociopathic grudge matches against people for imagined slights against you. It doesn’t. Pulling out a chair or buying a fancy dinner or otherwise ‘‘spoiling’’ a woman doesn’t make you ‘‘good to women.’’ Talking about them like they are fucking trading cards is not treating women well. Bragging repeatedly about your sexual assault is not treating women well.
I know so many people like you through my husband’s incredibly wealthy family, and you know what? I despise them. I despise their sociopathic charm and pride in their wealth and obsession with status. Every time I am forced to spend time with them, I feel like I’m the one with privilege, and I go home feeling like I need to wipe off the sleaze.
I don’t think you have a chance in hell of anything resembling a healthy relationship unless you get treatment.
The long-island girls story sounds implausable. A convoluted excuse at best. But, have fun on your date there, Shag, and call the Russian heiress and take some poker lessons, no need to drop her. Why would you? 2 girlfriends at once just doubles the fun! Yay, you!
No, you don’t. Nor do you treat women well, as Spice Weasel eloquently said.
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Without reading through the entire thread, tell me - is this another Shagnasty post where he explains how he’s such a nice, rich, handsome guy and all the women in the world just melt in his presence, but none are quite good enough for him?
Yup.
The Continuing Adventures of The Great Pussy Marauder.
Sometimes you have to wonder if maybe he’s in the closet and just trying desparately to convince himself that he’s really straight?
Why would she lie to such a great guy? You’re just jealous because he’s L.L.Shagnasty.
But at least they’ll come by it honestly.
I don’t really know what you expect from these threads. For someone who describes himself as “very smart,” :rolleyes: you don’t seem to learn from the extensive advice and insights people have offered you in the past. Once again there are some outstanding posts on this thread (the posts by TruCelt and expectopatronum are very wise, IMO). But you don’t seem to absorb what they are saying.
If you genuinely want a relationship, then you need a radical change in your view of women and relationships. That would mean trying to see women as actual human beings, not as objects for your pleasure or status symbols. And for God’s sake, stop going to strip clubs. Yuck.
But if (as I suspect) you don’t truly want a relationship, then by all means keep up your dating “addiction” and enjoy the strip clubs to your heart’s content. Of course, if you continue this path, don’t be at all surprised if your dating partners lose interest quickly. Most women don’t really want a boyfriend who views their “role” as “to screw, be pretty and responsible.”
Is anyone else imagining Shagnasty as a less handsome Tom Cruise in Magnolia? Somebody get this guy an interview and ask him about his mother.
No.
Every single time, I picture him as Patrick Bateman from American Psycho.
Lay off the compliments. He hardly needs your encouragement.
That is some pretty harsh criticism there Spice Weasel but that is what I signed up for. You know I respect and like you so no offense taken. I will keep your comments in mind.
However, there is one thing that I think most people are missing. This isn’t about “women” in general. It is about dating that involves sexual and romantic relationships. The two things aren’t even remotely the same. I spent all morning playing with my daughters, talking to my mother and working with a female project manager on the phone. Do you think any of those have anything to do with someone that I meet on Match or Bumble? No, of course not. It is all about relationship relativity. You don’t treat your grandmother or your boss the same way you treat your girlfriend. The main problem comes when people confuse the different roles but I keep them segregated. The women are on those sites voluntarily as well and many of them want to screw you too and not always in a good way.
People are into all kinds of weird things and there are websites for almost every kind. I happen to like the high-quality PG version and yet I am the one that gets shit for it. I still don’t understand why it is a problem to go out with as many attractive women as possible. It is a harmless diversion and only costs me money. The women aren’t innocent bystanders and I have been screwed over many times. That may end soon when my Long Island girl gets back because we are unusually good match in personality but it was fun while it lasted.
Totally disagree. When you view every sexual interaction as a transaction, a strip club is exactly where you belong.
Stop going on dates.
The Long-island girl and your relationship is already over, it’s doomed.
You said " but it was fun while it lasted" I would save my cash if I were you. Go for the Russian poker player, maybe you will win some more cash. Win-win!