A little oogy but nothing that bad. If you like it, it’s no big deal.
I could see it as creepy or sweet, but creepy is winning. For one thing, he has to invade what you might consider your standard personal space to do it, which is different from opening the door for you. For another thing, he’s locking this big heavy strap around you, keeping you in the seat - we could see it as bondage in some symbolic or even literal way. A third warning flag that’s probably not justified would be that he’s not trusting you to make a proper decision to wear it. Against all these negative interpretations I wish for some sort of sweet interpretation, but I don’t find one. The idea that he’s doing you a favor seems more like an excuse.
OK, OK, all that matters is whether you find it sweet, right? Well, no, you’re also asking, and I think that’s good. You’re uncertain yourself about it. All kinds of horrible people get by because their weird doings get too innocent an interpretation. If you want to bolster your own safety system by polling around for broader interpretation, then you should!
Creepy. Find someone who doesn’t do anything creepy to you.
I find it at the very least, odd. I don’t see it as sweet. I try to be sweet as often as possible, but would never presume to strap a woman into the car for her. I would open the door for her, but unless she were having trouble getting the belt to buckle, I would allow her to handle it.
Creepy.
The only way it would be creepier would be if after latching it he further resricted you with a few wraps of duct tape.
Before the days of central locking and remotes, I used to always open the woman’s door for her to let her in the car so that she wasn’t left standing outside while I got in and unlocked her door. This was considered pretty grand behaviour in my circles but even then as soon as they started getting in I was off around the car to open my door.
Putting on your seatbelt seems very creepy to me unless you have certain physical “shortcomings” that you haven’t mentioned…like no arms.
Unless he was copping a feel, in which case…
I’d say creepy… especially if he did it from the beggining.
Some people enjoy being whipped… and sado masochism… so if you like it its fine then.
If he shows no other signs of being a psychopathic, controlling ass, don’t take this as one. There are too many other possible explanations (some of which have been mentioned here).
The bottom line: if you asked him not to, but he still did it: yes, definitely creepy.
If you have never asked him not to, and if you “kinda liked it,” it seems ridiculous to call him creepy for doing it.
I used to have an old Jeep that I installed the seatbelts myself and didn’t do too good a job on the passenger’s side. I could explain it so the person could do it her or himself, but it was a lot quicker just to do it for them. I however would explain what I was doing while doing it so it didn’t seem quite so weird.
Creepy.
The first time I would think it was sweet, after that I would just find it creepy.
I vote for Creepy, but in a get-her-used-to-my-being-in-her-personal-space way rather than I’m-an-incipient-stalker way.
Another vote for creepy.
Creepy and condescending. Hello, I’m a grown woman-I think I can fasten my own seatbelt.
Another vote for creepy. And I’m used to having strangers open doors for me (or opening doors for strangers) all the time. I’ve never ever had someone buckle my seatbelt for me.
I did hang out with a very strange coworker a few times, who I had a huge crush on for a long time… he is an odd banana. I don’t think he let me touch a door the entire time we’ve ever hung out together, except unlocking my own. If a guy is already in front of me or it’s convenient to do so, I don’t have a problem with having doors opened for me. I see less as “sweet” and more as just “courteous”… but for someone to constantly go out of their way to beat me to a door just to open it for me is just plain weird.
If a guy buckeled my seatbelt for me, I’d ask why, and depending on the answer I’d either ask him never to do it again please, or run like Hell.
Yeah, tha’s what I was thinking. I’m not five.
Then I read Hilarity N. Suze’s post. IF the guy has kids and did it because he’s just used to buckling in his kids, I’d probably have made a joke about it.
Otherwise, I’d find it creepy.
Slight hijack:
When I am on a date, if we are walking back to my (locked) car, I always unlock the passenger side and let my date in first, before running over to the driver’s side. Is that creepy? Should I get in first and lean over to unlock the door from the inside, letting the woman open the door herself?
As far as this situation goes, I think it really depends on the comfort level of both people. I see quite a few knee-jerk responses here, labeling guys like this as potential pyschos, but all that attidue does is create such a fine line that any guy is either being CREEPY or SELFISH. I’m not claiming this behavior is not creepy, I see it as really depending on the situation at hand. It would definitely be a little odd on a first date, but not at all unusual for a couple who were very close.
Yes, Incubus, IMO it is the right thing to do to open her door first, wait for her to get in, then shut her door. At the least open it for her. Plus, then you can judge her character by whether she unlocks YOUR door or just sits there while you fumble with your keys. 
Oh no. There’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. You’re just being courteous.
I don’t think it’s psycho, necessarily, but leaning over me to buckle my seatbelt would be annoying in the extreme. Unless it was one of those tricky ones, I might ask for help, but don’t do it for me automatically.
My car unlocks the driver’s door when I unlock the passenger door.