I don’t know if it’s wrong, but there’s no way it’s not hurtful.
I think its typical of the modern world of online dating where if a person suddenly becomes single they are “That’s ok, I’ll go back online and have somebody else in a week”. When its so easy to find a new dating partner, why try hard with your current one?
Also when people are young its a time of your life when you still are trying to figure things out and you make alot of mistakes and yes, even hurt a few people.
I can’t believe you guys are both in your forties.
Better luck next time.
Right, unless not telling is specifically agreed on.
It depends on how it was said.
It could have been a joking reference to the recent unpleasantness, it could be cold and calculating.
Without knowing her and having heard the words in context- was this an old flame or an old friend from way back?
Only the person in the relationship and knowing both her and the other person can answer this.
If you need to ask the internet’s permission to be offended, you have it.
Now: Ask yourself why the hell you thought this was a topic for strangers to discuss?
You sound really controlling. I think next time if you feel the need to read your partner’s texts, you should just leave already.
*(He’ll be alone, baby, every night)
(Snapchat & Sext, don’t forget to write)
(Bye-bye, so long, farewell)
(Bye-bye, so long, farewell)
Will She See you in December…?
See you, cause this relationship is through?
Here we are (bye, baby, goodbye)
Texting good-bye on your Android (bye, baby, goodbye)
Back-Burner Love (bye, baby bye, baby)
Is why I’m sending you away (bye, baby, goodbye)
Have a good time… but Remember
You’re a Stranger… With no Faithfulness or Love…
Will he see you in December?
Cause Its July; And I have had Enough…!
(counting the days 'til you think its through?)
(Why waste the time, so I’m so done with you)
Bye, baby, goodbye
Bye, baby, goodbye
Bye, baby, goodbye (bye-bye, so long, farewell)
Bye, baby, goodbye (bye-bye, so long)
Have a good time… but Remember
You’re a Stranger… With no Faithfulness or Love…
Will he see you in December?
Cause Its July; And baby I have had Enough…!*
A girlfriend of mine once sprained her ankle, and I got her a card with a drawing of a horse in bed with a thermometer in his mouth, and the caption “There was a horse once who’s got what you’ve got…” and inside it said “… they shot him.”
Possibly one of the worst dating decisions I’ve ever made.
re: the OP: there exists the dim possibility that her statement amounted to “Well, if I’m single, we can go out, but that’s not going to happen, so hah hah!”
Yeah, five months sounds a bit long for her next relationship to last.
OT: My sister broke her leg on her wedding day and my uncle, a vet, said “We might have to put you down!” I still don’t know if she was more laughing or more crying.
Kind of reminds me of a thread we had last year, where a poster was talking about how her boyfriend said something about being devoted for as long as their relationship lasted and that in all likelihood it wouldn’t last forever. A bit different than making tentative plans with a member of the opposite sex if your relationship fails, but I suppose some people do have different philosophies about relationships.
O.T.: Paraphrased from a Larry the Cable Guy routine: His sister’s horse broke it’s leg and she asked Larry to shoot the horse for her. Larry thought it was a stupid idea, but it was his sister asking, so he shot the horse. So now his sister has a horse with a broken leg and a gunshot wound.
Sounds to me like the OP wanted a mutually exclusive dating relationship with Lauren leading to something serious. And Lauren was into serial dating with a lot of overlap. IMO, not a good match.
Emotions can still run high in your forties, but yeah, point taken.
Not an old friend. Someone she had never met physically before, just chatted online.
I won’t completely disagree with you, but seeing messages pop up on someone’s phone is hard to miss if you’re observant.
Interesting in that for once we have both points of view. The OP’s girlfriend discuss the issue here.
It’s even more obvious that this relationship was doomed from the get go.
Or insecure. Or 12.
Grownup see an incoming text and don’t quiz, query or snoop their companion. If she didn’t contact internet dude first, she doesn’t control when he sends a text to her. Your “friends” both of them, need to grow up. The on again, off again thing is so dumb.