Is this "hostess" totally out of line?

Thanks, BigT, that was exactly it. There was a bit of residual resentment from prior threads mixed in there too. I realize I was asking for people’s opinions. There is, however, a difference between giving your own opinion and telling someone else they shouldn’t be feeling what they’re feeling in a certain situation. Especially when it’s done in a condescending way, such as giving anctedotes about people who live lives of bitterness because they aren’t enlightened enough to magically avoid getting irritated by anything in life. :rolleyes: You can offer advice about what to do in a situation, but telling someone thier feelings are “silly” or wrong because you don’t agree with them is indeed condescending and far from productive.

CatWhisperer, thanks. It was definately the snowball effect. She’s getting games now and is ordering pizza and getting a bunch of beer, and texted me saying if I’m feeling too stressed out that it’s okay to flake. I might take her up on that.