She’s in her 80s…actually, 90 is coming around the corner.
Lately, her health has declined. And I can hear it in her voice…she’s becoming resigned to it.
She’s not afraid of being old and dying any more.
And that’s scarier than when she was.
Why scary? It comes to us all. Being resigned is a lot better than fearful and anguished.
Being resigned to it is a good thing. I struggle with the concept of my own mortality (comprehending it, accepting it, etc), but I don’t want to go kicking and screaming (unless I’m being attacked, and I don’t want that either). Who wants their last moments on Earth filled with a panicked, desperate fear? I don’t. I hope I find resignation when my time approaches.
I think the point the OP was making is that if her mother has resigned herself to dying, she will. Maybe I’m wrong but that’s how I’m reading it and it is a scary concept; the idea that your elderly parent has stopped “caring” or “fighting” or whatever.
I’m sorry you’re feeling scared, Scissors. I hope as time passes you become more comfortable with the idea, too.
Well regardless she is going to die anyway. We all are unless you know something the rest of us don’t
Stopping her from living won’t keep her from dying.