It means that the Lord didn’t die so that we could be attacked by other people. He died so that we could decide for ourselves how we want to live.
And what got me “pitted” are my beliefs and if they get me “pitted” at other forums, oh well. I am not changing them. If you are not going to change yours, don’t go expecting other people to change the ones that they have.
There wasn’t anything wrong with me telling him “I love you too.” in return. The Lord does say to love everyone does he not. Even if he didn’t, I wouldn’t tell someone to go suck an egg after they said “I love you.” to me.
God bless you two and James always!!! 
Holly