OK, so jeanster opens up a thread -“Internnational Exchange Program or a Scam?” Discussion ensues over whether or not this is a legitimate scam, or just a travel agency with questionable marketing techniques.
But jeanster seems to be… how to put it delicately? Rather new 'round these parts. The thread started in IMHO, and as opinions on the matter get a little heated, Czarcasm wisely moves it to The Pit, adding his own opinion on the matter.
Now that the proverbial floodgates had opened, people were a tad more colorful in their opinions of the program, and some of our more esteemed Dopers expressed themselves as we are wont to do.
However, jeanster has taken offense.
Some quotes that seem relevant:
Heavens - rudeness in The Pit. Is nothing sacred?
My, my - let’s not be too hasty, now!
(jeanster also seemed to be under the mistaken impression that when a Moderator expresses their opinion about an OP (without specifically wearing their fancy Moderator Hat, I might add), that that somehow is the final word on the subject. But I digress.)
However, thankfully, cooler heads prevailed, and jeanster didn’t report poor, put-upon Opal to the Moderators for being A Big Nasty Meanie, but rather posted in the “Discussion of Pit Rules” thread, where she accuses Opal of “goading her into an argument” (and evidently The Mermaid’s statement, “And watch out all of you. Now that she’s got that pointer finger warmed up and she’s not afraid to use it.” didn’t exactly sit too well with her either).
But, hey, it’s ok - she’s pregnant, about to have a baby, and apologized if she got out of hand. Hormones and all, and she’s worried about the pregnancy. OK, we’re not Big Fat Meanies around here - we’re sympathic, we understand. Good luck with the kid! When you come back, let us know how things went. And maybe if you stick around you’ll get a better lay of the land and fit in just fine.
However, Mr. jeanster (posting under jeanster’s nome de plume) decided to check us out as well after hearing his wife speak of us. He took the time to read the thread (twice, even) and lay the blame at Opal’s feet, with her “nonstop jabs,” and accusing Gingerofthenorth of playing favorites for not taking The Mermaid to task for her “finger-waving” comment. (j’accuse!)
Heavens. Such strife. Such storm und drang. What’s a drama queen to do?
Why, start a Pit thread, of course.
jeanster, methinks you’re not only clueless about how this board is run, but clueless as to how to hold your own in a debate. Yeah, we get a little rough and dirty, but Opal was, IMHO, the epitome of good graces in that thread. She called your idea stupid - not you, not your husband, not your baby, not your way of life, just your idea. She’s entitled. And just calling your idea stupid is actually Great Debates material - it’s positively kid gloves in the Pit. I’d hate to think how you would have reacted if someone had actually let loose on you if they didn’t agree with your OP.
So, my advice (and you may take it for what it’s worth) is go, have your baby, and when you come back (if you have the time), take a little longer to read through the boards, read Cecil’s wisdom, and if the Pit isn’t for you, then stay out of it (and work harder at writing OP’s that won’t end up there). Whatever you decide, you’re certainly welcome here, but it doesn’t behoove you to come in and tell us what we should or shouldn’t do. As I mentioned, the SDMB has been around for quite some time before you or I ever showed up, and will continue after we leave, and it’s been going quite well, I think.
Just MHO. Take it or leave it.