I know you’re on the Board a lot. How have you missed the awesome wonder that is JohnClay?
This thread was on the specific topic of relationship advice (which JC should never, ever give, but I’ll try to help out with a few other samples of his genius.
[thread=788034]Pit thread he started because he wanted to post about his whacked out diet issues[/thread]. It was shut down because the Pit is not a blog forum. He was asked to stop posting about his diet, so he’s a bit stuck at this point.
[thread=740170]This charming note on stealing Legos, complete with poetry.[/thread]
[thread=788765]Poll on hairy nipples.[/thread]
[thread=779338]He tries to sing.[/thread]
[thread=779254]His toys discuss sex.[/thread]
[thread=759050]He steals from his wife.[/thread]
It truly goes on and on. If you need more evidence, check out his posting history.
Insulting your intelligence has all the challenge of kicking a sick puppy, but OK.
On the matter of our illustrious poster and self-proclaimed high intellect and almost-member of Mensa, read what others have said and follow the suggestions to read some of his magnificent proclamations.
Depression can be nothing more than sadness, in which case it’s just a normal and temporary reaction to one of life’s downturns. Clinical depression is an entirely different thing and it can indeed be chronic and debilitating, potentially a serious medical problem that is a lot more than just “apathy”.
Only a complete idiot would imagine that people jump out of airplanes from 30,000 feet. Think about it for a moment, if you are able. Believing that this is the normal jump altitude for anyone, let alone a beginner, shows a lack of knowledge of more things than I could reasonably try to list.
Only a complete idiot would imagine that a first-time or newbie jumper would be entrusted with manually pulling a ripcord.
It’s already been noted that only an idiot pluralizes with apostrophes, but that makes it an even 5 idiotic things you did in a post that on my monitor comes out to 5 lines.
So none of the advice in the depression thread is any good? Also my mentioning of my friend’s dad’s advice isn’t relationship advice.
Stringbean was asking about my depression advice. That’s what I was originally pitted for!
[thread=740170]…This charming note on stealing Legos, complete with poetry.[/thread]
This stopped by the time I started high school
[thread=788765]Poll on hairy nipples.[/thread]
What’s that got to do with relationship advice?
[thread=779338]He tries to sing.[/thread]
I don’t claim to be a good singer.
[thread=779254]His toys discuss sex.[/thread]
No they didn’t discuss sex.
[thread=759050]He steals from his wife.[/thread]
So about 50% of people cheat on their wives but I don’t and which is worse?
Having a weird relationship doesn’t prove I’m bad at giving relationship advice. BTW I recommended John Gottman material in the depression thread. Are you saying that is bad advice?
wolfpup:
I see you ignored my reply to reply to a post by Stringbean…
That poster wrote:
“Let’s see the REALLY FUCKED UP SHIT he posted and I’ll get on board with the pitting.”
They mean what I posted in that depression thread because that’s what the pit thread originally was about.
They originally wrote “Having not read the thread in question”
i.e. they are concerned with the contents of the depression thread, not about other threads.
You also said that I am guilty of “dangerously bad advice-giving,”
and I replied “cite? If possible more than one cite?”
BTW I didn’t say that Quasimodal should jump out of a plane and kill themself. But I did bring up things like Uncommon Knowledge, John Gottman, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Dr Glover’s “No More Mr Nice Guy”.
I’m left wondering how we should indicate the possessive form of the plural of a contraction?
If we start with brother and make it plural, brothers. Now the contracted form is bro's, so far so good. So the modern accepted form of the possessive would be bro's's which looks just terrible and sounds worser. However, the archaic form has us drop the final s and so we have bro's', although the pronunciation is the same as bro's's. That’s just not funky enough and sounds like some uptight whitie trying to be hip, like JohnClay.
I’m going to say that bro's is the proper form in Oakland, California …
I think the point was that your post was riddled with errors – by my count, five revealing mistakes in five lines of post. That was just one of them. Some might use this information to conclude that you’re an imbecile.
But please allow me to elaborate. There are several foundational principles for assessing intelligence, broadly categorized into problem-solving skills and general life experience and knowledge of the world. Your skydiving comment fails miserably on that latter two criteria. Any person of reasonable intelligence would know that at 30,000 feet the atmosphere is so rarefied that just opening the door of the aircraft would result in explosive decompression, or else the airplane would have to be unpressurized and everyone equipped with oxygen masks. It is also intensely cold, so basically what you’d be wearing is a space suit with self-contained breathing apparatus. And that altitude is also far above the service ceiling of most of the kinds of propeller planes used for jumps, so you’d probably have to go up in a jet and fling your spacesuit-wearing self out into a multiple hundred mile-an-hour blast of air that would hit you like a cannonball. Yeah, that’s just the kind of thing that one would take a newbie first-time jumper out into!
Not to mention that for an untrained jumper, getting guided to a safe landing spot is critically important. But you imagine that a first-time jumper leaping out of a jet nearly six miles up – which is practically in outer space – can guide himself to a safe landing right back in the little field where he started from. Oh ,yeah, and his non-depression and life force will be validated by the fact that he pulled his own ripcord!
And BTW, there is no “metaphor” here. Nor any “granularity” of anything.
wolfpup:
I see yet again you are ignoring posts that are a challenge for you while focusing on things that you can handle.
Even though Stringbean accepts that you are correct about the jumping altitude you thought that we all wanted to read you spend another two paragraphs explaining why their old error is indeed wrong.
Then you ended with two nitpicks.
Ok out of those 2 choices - back up your earlier statement or insult them, which did you choose?
“Insulting your intelligence has all the challenge of kicking a sick puppy, but OK.”
So you took the less challenging option.
Honestly? You don’t seem to care much about the meanings of words sometimes. Perhaps it is an attempt at mean-spirited humour.
Meh. I found a lot of JohnClay’s posts rather annoying in the past, but I agree with a lot of what he said in the cited pitting, or at least found that his thoughts had substance and were meant to be helpful. John Gottman is a pretty standard suggestion from qualified therapists, and it’s true that seeking external validation can be an unhealthy issue and that “nice guys” tend to allow themselves to be defined by bad relationships, etc.
I also see people attacking him for having his own anxiety and relationship issues, as if that makes him a bad person or unqualified to comment on such matters. If anything, I think naturally happy and well-adjusted people who don’t have difficulties with socialization or healthy relationships really have no perspective about what it’s like to have those issues and typically offer counter-productive suggestions because they are offering advice from the perspective of someone with health self-esteem, confidence, boundary setting, etc, and such advice only works for people with that foundation.