My mother has breast cancer. She’s meeting with the surgeon today and we will know more then. My stepmother, who had breast cancer 20 years ago, is going with her. Stepmom volunteered for some time with women who’d been diagnosed. I offered to Skype in, and mom said that’s ok for this one, but if she has to go to oncology, then she’ll take me up on it.
This is hard to process. I’ve had health issues forever, and she’s been the healthy one. My mom is one of those people who was never sick. She had seasonal and dust allergy problems when younger, and possibly minor migraines (they responded to coffee-aspirin-tylenol). That’s it. Never saw her with a cold, nor the flu. The longest I saw her feeling badly was after her two surgeries (hysterectomy, then hip replacement).
She’s 75, and active. Just repainted her entire house (including the rooms with 12-foot ceilings). Mows her own half-acre lawn with a push mower. Does her own yard work. Handles most of her own home repairs. Has always eaten “healthy” – we did not have much in the way of processed foods around. She’s been eating protein-veg-fruit-whole grains forever. Has not smoked since 1967. She does like a drink, but she’s cut way back on that, too.
Very smart intellectually, too. No loss of cognition, which apparently matters to the outcomes. She does the New York Times crossword daily, and finishes Sunday’s edition. I can’t do that; I’ve managed to finish the Monday one on occasion. :o
So overall, she should be low risk. That’s why I’m having a hell of a time processing this. The only person in her family with cancer (other than skin cancers) was the woman who smoked two and a half packs of cigarettes a day for forty years.
I will know more today. Obviously if needed, I’ll move back home. My boss has told me to take any time I need and that if I need to go to Florida to get her through chemo or whatever, that we have some flexibility. Between FMLA and PTO and flexible work, I should be fine.
Mum has a very British stiff upper lip. “We’ll deal with whatever the doctor says it is.”
I don’t like being grown up. Can I be 21 again? That was a pretty good year.
Anyway –
**Helena330 **-- good luck to Harley. What did the vet say? Random lumps aren’t that uncommon, I don’t think, so I hope it’s nothing.
**Chimera **-- hope the migraine is better. People stopped asking me “why” I had a migraine after I snapped, “Because I have a genetic disposition to them”. I also perfected what a friend calls my “Christopher Walken thousand-yard stare”. 
Been there. Evil HR Lady has a good articleabout this. Maybe you can share some suggestions with management? Barring that…if it’s annoying enough, could be time to jump ship and find another job.