Be strong!
That’s the one.
I don’t mind the “please consent”, but I’m pretty sure they are breaking the law by not making it POSSIBLE to refuse.
That just gets rid of tracking stuff they have already done. It doesn’t prevent the site from adding those cookies anew the next time you visit, nor from selling the information they’ve already gathered.
I misunderstood what you were saying. I believe you are correct.
Or maybe their way around it is that your refusal option is to back out of the site rather than continuing on.
ETA: Or they don’t create any cookies until you hit accept and you just have to put up with the nag banner.
He did say his ceiling was worse. Its been leaking for 3 weeks now, with pointy bulges in the ceiling. Apparently its from the a/c. His electronics are under it. They wont have someone over for another week. He cant move the gear to the wall thats not leaking and they wont help him for liability reasons.
(Again, with compassion.)
This is NOT YOUR PROBLEM.
He could literally ask anyone else to help with this, and he should. You are not the only human who could help, and you have enough negative history here that he should not be burdening you with this knowledge. It’s designed to make you feel guilty and manipulate you back into his service. It’s probably 100% true about the electronics and the risk to them, but that’s immaterial. He’s using the excuse to get to you.
I agree. Even telling you this stuff is manipulative. Especially since he didn’t add “And this is what I’m doing about it…”
Jeez, I don’t care how much history or how shackled to him you feel, or how much you have to be a white knight to needy people.
You need to cut things off cleanly. FOR HIS SAKE as well as yours. He needs to “man up”, and he won’t if you can be guilted back into a toxic relationship (only when he needs you, of course).
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ps, he could have tossed a tarp over the electronics when he’s not using them. But no, he bitched to you instead…
He said the maintenence man offered plastic, but thats the only entertainment he has, he cant see well enough to read. I told him to call his brother and friend and get them to move the stuff to the dry wall. 2 weeks ago, when I was there, it was leaking, I saw it so hes not making it up.
Thank you people here for being supportive of me, and giving me good objective advice. I have done a lot for him since January, enough I think God will bless me for that.
Yup, so you can now say you’re done. 
Heck, if I hadnt taken him back in January, he wouldnt be alive.
One of my roommates, “Big Steve”, who has already lost a leg due to a lifelong tobacco addiction, cut his finger while sharpening a machete. We didn’t learn about it for hours, because he didn’t tell us. And he just WILL. NOT. go to the hospital. He says he’s got plenty of bandages. And the only thing he’s worried about is possible tetanus, and he’ll check on that with his doctor on Monday.
FUCKING MONDAY.
It’s Wednesday.
Meanwhile, Lil’ Stevie is still bitching about the shoulder that he injured when he got drunk and fell out of his chair.
Between Big Steve and Lil’ Stevie, there’s not a single brain cell between the two of them.
How the hell do you lose a leg to cigarettes? What, did he burn the damn thing off?
I refuse to accept all cookies and if a site insists I do, I leave. I have no patience with that nonsense.
Smoking hurts circulation which can affect legs and feet particularly.
Here are three ways that cigarette smoke damages blood vessels:
- Nicotine is a stimulant, which speeds up the heart by about 20 beats per minute with every cigarette. It raises blood pressure and is a vasoconstrictor, which means it makes arteries all over the body become smaller. That makes it harder for the heart to pump blood through the constricted arteries and it causes the body to release its stores of fat and cholesterol into the blood.
- Smoking accelerates the hardening and narrowing process in arteries. Stiff, narrowed arteries are common in elderly people, but for smokers that process starts earlier, effectively giving them “old” arteries.
- It increases “bad” cholesterol (low-density lipoprotein) and decreases the “good” cholesterol (high-density).
Smoking is really bad for you.
Why are you still talking to this person?
Why wouldnt I? Would you like to be in a wheelchair and have your ceiling, in at least 4 places dripping down? He mentioned legal action and they came over to cover the ceiling with plastic so it would drip into one bucket instead of 4.
We were together almost every day for a year. Should I hate him?
Just love yourself more.
I don’t think you should hate him, no. I do think, just from what you say, that you would be happier with more distance from him.
Thought experiment: consider him separately from the disability, and separately from the living situation. Without these factors, if he didn’t need you, would you still like him and want to spend time with him?
I honestly don’t know what your answer would be. Maybe he’s a good friend whose circumstances make him a jerk sometimes, and you just need firmer boundaries; maybe he’s a jerk, full stop, and you’d be better off cutting off contact. I have no way of knowing.
Yes, just like that. AND HE STILL SMOKES.