I have been lurking for quite a while and just recently decided to jump in a little more… You all just have so much to say and by the time I am done reading it all I don’t have any of my own unique thoughts left… I am even sure this question has been asked at one time or another but I will ask it anyway.
I was wondering what are the rules of “attraction” for you?
And
What are the rules of “no need to be in my world” for you?
For example I am very attracted to someone who makes me feel comfortable, is confident, and can make me believe they think only of me when looking for the quick release by themself (even though I know they are looking at some damn magazine). :rolleyes:
I shut down a guy before even hello if I see they are arrogant, self-absorbed know-it-all’s. They just don’t fit in my world…
So tell me what you all look for and what you look out for…
I like a guy with a sense of humour - not just any kind though - MY kind of sense of humour. I can’t explain what that is, I just know it when I see it. Suffice to say my bf can make me laugh so much I’m in pain afterwards.
Also sensitive, not a wimp (ie doesn’t expect me to make all the decisions), I do like an Alpha male but one who knows his place :p… what I mean by that is a guy who fairly dominant but with whom I can be a partner. If that makes sense.
Ego is fun if its self depreciating in the main, boastfulness is bad, arrogance is a no no, know it alls are painful … looks dont matter to me …
I like someone who’s incredibly goofy and a bit geeky. Dorky is A-OK as well. As a matter of fact, any kind of intelligent, self-deprecating person with a sense of humor.
Oh, and oreos. They’ve got to like oreos.
Someone who absolutely would not be in my world? Anyone who wears nice dress shoes for anything other than work or fancy schmancy dress-up occaisions.
Oddly, the only absolutely consistent trait in the women I’ve been seriously attracted to is that they wear glasses sometimes. Pretty much everything else varies.
I’m thinking that’s a coincidence, cause it doesn’t make much sense otherwise.
Hmm…Well, I’d have to agree on the intelligence and sense of humor. And, throw in warmth, maturity, and a sense of her own sexuality. By that last one, I mean someone who both has a sex drive and is comfortable with it. Unfortunately, that one is very difficult to tell about, in the early stages of a relationship. At least, in my experience.
What doesn’t work for me? Arrogance, slovenliness, close-mindedness, asexuality or sexual disfunction, spitefulness or intolerance (or both), disinterest in the intellectual world.
I’m sure there are more items I could add to each list, but that’s a reasonable start.
What doesnt work for me is someone who pays absolutely no attention to me. Sure, I’ll work hard to get someone’s attention if I see their potential but if it isn’t happening, it’s an incredible turnoff. Not as in I don’t further pursue the relationship; that is normal, of course. I simply don’t see that person as as attractive as they once were.
There are fewer rules to whom I AM attracted to. Sometimes I like a bit of a tease, sometimes I like a total sycophant. Sometimes I like a confident mid-40s woman, sometimes a tentative (yet not shy) old teen. Sometimes…you get the idea. Of course to be extremely attractive they should be good looking but there aren’t many rules for that either, excepting a decent weight (within a certain range) and relative unblemishedness.
I like people who are intelligent, educated, experienced, have a good sense of humor and an interesting set of hobbies.
I want to hang out with people I like (see above) who seem to like me for pretty much the same reasons.
I keep my distance from people who piss off my friends.
Note that this is concerning the people I am drawn to; the kind of women I would look for as girlfriends are several levels of involvement deeper than this.
[sub]Hooter size has very little to do with it. Even the smallest of breasts can be quite attractive if packaged correctly.[/sub]
